Being the Other Woman/Other Man

This is for anyone who has lost their lover to death and you were the other woman/other man in their life. We have to grieve in silence. I can't find any support groups and feel like I'm the only one going through this situation

So Blessed!

I lost my soulmate, the man I should have met years to a long battle with COVID pneumonia. He was married, but his wife took their then 12 year old daughter and moved across the state line 2 months before we met, 14 months ago. After realizing we were meant for each other we decided to keep our relationship from his wife for the sake of his daughter until she was older and could accept the change. Everything was fine until he texted and told me his COVID was getting worse and he was going to the hospital. While in the hospital he texted and told me not to contact him anymore because his wife was in the picture and using his phone. He assured me she knew nothing about us and knowing her and checking her FaceBook page if she knew....EVERYONE would know. We had a few mutual friends who I knew would keep me in the loop, but I wanted to come clean with his siblings. He never told them about us because he was afraid of their reaction.  I googled his brother's name and found a phone number online and called his brother asking about him. He was so sweet and accepting and said he would keep our secret. He mentioned he and their sister saw a change in him, but couldn't figure it out until I called him.  He then called their sister who called me the next morning willing to chat. His sister and I developed a beautiful friendship the past 6 weeks and she even encouraged me to call his nurses' station while he was in the hospital. The nurse was very nice and offered to allow me to FaceTime him which was wonderful because I could talk to him and tell him it's ok to go if the Lord calls him Home.... that was a week and a half before he passed. The services are later this week and his siblings want me to come...we are all staying at the same hotel. I'm just praying we can pull off the viewing and funeral without the wifey finding out about us. A mutual male friend, the one who interduce us, will be going with me. I just feel so blessed I can openly mourn and have the family's support unlike so many of you. I pray for the Lord's strength to see you through your loss.

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    Robin H

    Blessed to be acknowledged! Sending peace & comfort to you
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      Jennie

      Thank you… the services are going to be rough… she’s going to put on a show for sure… she paid $850.00 for the obituary complete with a professional color family picture.
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        Addie

        It is a blessing to be able to be acknowledged by the family in your grief. Though that won’t necessarily make the grief any easier. Sending you strength and peace.