Being the Other Woman/Other Man

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This is for anyone who has lost their lover to death and you were the other woman/other man in their life. We have to grieve in silence. I can't find any support groups and feel like I'm the only one going through this situation

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I'm grateful I found this group

by Alice Smith

Oct 12, 2020

I have been struggling completely alone for nearly 2 years. I felt like there HAD to be others in my position out there but I had no way to find out.  I finally found a shrink who told me the term disenfranchised grief.  And told me about this site.  I feel hope for the first time in nearly 2 years.  I have been so completely and utterly alone and have had NO way to work through my grief other than bottling it up.

We are/were both married to other people, literally no one knew/knows.  It's been nearly 2 years and I'm as devastated as day one.  I've attempted suicide twice in this time.  I just....I can't see a way to live without him.  I feel like my soul, spirit and life have left me with him and I have no will to go on.  I miss him so much every day.  Every.  Single.  Day.  

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    Kelly

    Two years for me as well. March 10, 2019. I attempted suicide once and considered it twice. I still sometimes wish for some illness or accident to take me. I hate telling people my best friend died and then having to say it was He and not She. The weird looks. I want to scream at the top of my lungs that I loved him and he loved me. No one knew that. No one can comfort me by telling me they know he loved me.
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    Mar 31, 2021

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      kyrs

      i am so sorry. :(

      Jul 19, 2022