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When will I be happy again?

by Angela Thompson

Oct 10, 2016

I lost my dad Sept 26 2015. He had been in the hospital for 3 mths. He had COPD and some other underlying things. I'm a only child and my mother is still here. We have always been close but since this has happened, I have distanced myself from her because I can't be her best friend and her daughter. I am married but my husband is of no help with what I am going thru. So with that said.. I have tried to do this on my own. I have been strong and rolled with the punches. I thought I had this all under control and eventually things would get back to normal but what is normal? Normal is gone! I have more bad days than good. I may break down and cry at any given moment. My marriage is suffering from all my wild moods (marriage is a another subject). I just want to be happy again. I know things can't go back to what it was but I just want a to know that I can laugh, or smile, or feel anything good again. I miss him so much. The thought of not being able to hear his voice in my head is overwhelming. He was just a good person and father.
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    Crystal

    I found the 1st year after dad dies, or for that matter anyone does, is the hardest. You're having to get used to him not being "there" for you & around your life. How do you cope? You can't call him & chat anymore like you used to, & stuff like that. Truth be told, you don't at 1st. You just deal with the pain of loss. One thing I have to,suggest to you, I'd reach out to mom, she's dealing with his loss just like you-her other half was taken from her. She can understand your mutual loss as your husband can't understand or cope with. When my own dad died, I had my sister to lean on. We both could reach out & know each other understood. Until my husband lost his own father a few years later, he couldn't really help. I also suggest you find a counselor to talk & help you handle this. They are trained to listen & give you ways to cope that you may not have thought of. I'm glad you reached out here, it's a 1st step to healing. It shows you admit you can't handle this alone. Keep posting! We're here for you.
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    Oct 11, 2016

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      emma

      It's been all most 11 years for me and for me it's not easy I never got to say goodbye... I'm so sorry for your loss

      Oct 11, 2016

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        Michael

        Angela, how well are you coping with your loss? 

        Apr 16, 2017