"i understand your pain"---and either they don't have any children of their own or their children are safe and sound.  *sigh

My mom asked me how I was doing on the morning of my sons funeral. I said that this was the second worst day of my life, (the worst being discovering my son dead and attempting CPR.) My MOM said, "well, he's already dead." I have no idea why that came out of her mouth. I Told her that I was burying my son today, and that made it the second worst. She did realize the absolute stupidity that she had spouted about two seconds earlier. I saw it in her face. I still can't believe it. My own mom.

My sister flew in from California for the funeral. She kept going on about her two kids. We have one two year old and lost our 17 day old son. She kept saying things like, "As soon as (older sister) tries something, (younger sister) has to try it." "I'm so glad my kids love being sisters." She said multiple things like this. She has a doctorate and is a counselor. You would think she would have some idea.