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Permalink Reply by Debra A. Whitemaine on June 17, 2013 at 7:19am

Hi Essie,

I'm so sorry to hear of your loss.  I lost my Dad suddenly September 2012.  This is a good place to share your feelings.  I also decided to go to therapy and it has helped a lot.  Do what you need to do.  Your Mom remodeling may be her way of grieving/coping.  And it may not seem right to you but it may be what she needs.  Try to focus on the good memories and do things to honor your Dad.  I have found doing that brings me peace and happiness.  I hope the best for you, take care.

Permalink Reply by Essie Jay on June 19, 2013 at 12:18am

Thank you for taking the time to reply. Yes, I really do realize the remodeling is helping my mom. I don't say anything about how I feel because I don't want her to realize that her way of coping is making my coping harder, because that isn't fair at all. I just.....

It scares me that the more my life progresses, the more he will only be a fuzzy memory. And changing all this stuff makes the memories fuzzier.

Permalink Reply by dream moon JO B on June 18, 2013 at 3:30pm

im so sory abot yore loss essie wen my dad died my harf sister wont me to throw evry thng out i did not wont to u cud say im a realy bad horder i dont lik throwng thngs out 

im, 1 of thes i keap out of datee bill resepts i do iv kept his diarys his rings evn som coins he had wish i can tuse i wont wont to coz my dad had his handds on it 

my mum dont lik change evir lik me we try to keap thngs away thy r but 1 or 2 in th famly lkik to throw thr waite arond telin us whit we can keap nd cantt keap

so i no how u feal 

Permalink Reply by Essie Jay on June 19, 2013 at 10:01pm

Thank you. I know what you mean. Sometimes I see little things around the house, and I snatch them up and put them away. Thankfully my mom let me have one of his rings :)