feeling sad and lonely.......

Wednesday night was one of the worst nights of my life. My 15 year old nephew and his father (my ex brother-in-law) were both killed in a plane crash 2 days ago......I still think it's a nightmare,or someone will call me and tell me that it was just a mistake.....

The pain is unimaginable....I can't believe my dear and only nephew has gone forever.Why him?... I have no one to turn to.I live in Canada with my husband and this accident happened back home in the Middle East. We've got no close family here and I feel deserted. I don't know how to grieve by myself...I'm just crying and feeling hollow and empty constantly.
It's suffocating me to think about my poor sister, (who's single)..How will she cope with this pain? Thank god there are a lot of relatives around her right now...but why her? She's been through so much pain all her life.She had a nasty divorce and her only child got diabetes at the age of 8..and now he's gone.....forever........Just thinking about her,my nephew's lovely face,and all the memories we had together breaks me....
I felt so lonely that I decided to get help from the Internet.I really need someone to hug me and cry with me....I wish I could be there for my sister.
Please comfort me....tell me what I should do.

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Permalink Reply by Diana, Grief Recovery Coach on July 17, 2009 at 3:22pm
(((((hugs))))). I am so sorry. Sometimes it just helps to talk. Take it one day at a time. Many of us "here" have been there and still are there. It helps to know you can talk here and feel safe. Sometimes it seems that some of us have more pain then we can handle and its hard to understand why. You might want to consider keeping a journal or post pictures. Make sure you eat and drink plenty of fluids. Wish I could be there for you. You're in my thoughts.
Permalink Reply by Golnaz on July 17, 2009 at 8:43pm
Thanks Diana.....It means a lot to me.....
Permalink Reply by Gail Richardson on July 22, 2009 at 6:52am
Oh no, what an awful tragedy - I am so sorry for your loss and my heart goes out to your sister.
I'm so sorry too that you are on your own with this news. I lived abroad for many years and I know how isolated I felt when something happened at home.
Your sister is going through something no parent should ever have to do - the loss of a child is the most awful experience anyone has to endure. But she will be comforted by her relations and friends and I know in the middle east the families are so close.
You need to be able to talk to someone about how you are feeling in all this - perhaps your doctor could arrange some counselling at some point. You can be there for your sister but you will need to be stronger
in yourself. Please use this group to talk about how you are feeling - it really helps to put things down in words. You are still in awful shock about the accident, the feeling will wear off eventually and a painful reality will set in. In the meantime, let your sister know that you are there for her, by phone, by internet, by letter. I can send you some useful articles written by bereaved parents which can advise you what we need to hear. Maybe you could start a little memorial site for your nephew - somewhere to post photos and memories of your precious boy. Sending you a massive cyber hug (((((((((((((((((((((((HUG)))))))))))))))))))))) Gail
Permalink Reply by Golnaz on July 22, 2009 at 12:29pm
I really appreciate your kind message. It's unbelievable how a stranger can be so caring in such situations......It makes me think that there are still nice people out there.....Thanks a lot.
Permalink Reply by Gail Richardson on July 22, 2009 at 4:02pm
You're welcome my love xx
Permalink Reply by Serena Ellis on August 26, 2009 at 1:01am
Oh its really bad news and I feel so sorry for your loss. Its really a painful tragedy and difficult to accept it. You can share your grief in this site because its really helpful for you. I understand your feelings.
I know its difficult to believe it and you can't forget this accident. You are in my prayers and thoughts. please accept my condolences.........
((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))

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Permalink Reply by Jason Morgan on September 17, 2009 at 9:14pm
One giant hug from someone who also feels you pain. I lost my sister at the age of 34 not to long ago. I struggle with the loss everyday. some days are better than others but at any minuet I can crack. Trust in the Lord and know that your nephew and his father are in a better place and that God has a plan for each one of us. Try to live your live by doing things that would make your nephew proud. And talk about him everyday. then he will never really be gone. Tell your sister how much you love her, send her cards just out of the blue. Talk with her about how great her son was. Try to laugh at least once a day. Take time to just enjoy the littlest things. Take each day as it come. some will be better than others.

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