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I loss my 21yr old about 14 months ago, due to him riding his friend's motorcycle. Time has not even begun to ease my pain or my anger. It may sound irrational, but I am really angry that the world is "going on" WITHOUT my son. When they told me that there was nothing left that they could do for my son, I felt like the sun and the moon should never rise again. I felt like I passed away with my son. I want him back.
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Dear Maria, I am so sorry. You are a beautiful person to share your love with so many chidren, I am sorry that you have to experience such a loss, I am sorry for all of us. There really are no comforting words, except, I truly understand.
Hey Maria, did you read the poem I posted above?
Maria.....of course, please print it and share it. This site provides a way to vent without us being judged.
I know. I have cried EVERY day for 14 months. I cant wear any makeup. I recently started going back to my hair salon, I had no interest. My daughter told me that my son would be very upset if I don't get my hair, he wouldn't like me looking so run down.
Hello Maria and all other members. I didn't realize that our children were so close in age when they passed away.......my son was 21. It's funny how you mentioned self medicating with alcohol. One of my son's best friends was tragically killed just a little over a year before my son and I remember how devastated my son was. Anyway, at his burial, I so vividly remember his mom carrying a bag with a bottle of Hennessey and as they started to lower her precious son....she put the bottle to her mouth and began to guzzle it! When her family members went to her side, she politely told them to leave her alone because that was her "baby" in there. My heart just ached for her.......who knew that in a little over a year's time, I too would be standing in that same cementary, totally in shock and despair that MY son was now there. If I had been a drinker, I probably would still be drunk! Luckily, for me, I was never a drinker, not even socially....I have never cared for the taste of any alcohol.....not even a wine cooler. I am glad you realized that drinking would only harm you.
You definately said it right........life is definately "different".
Greetings to all members of this site and group. just wanted to connect with everyone. I am still having a difficult time with the loss of my son. I am surprised that I still have any tears left. I am being physically and emotionally drained. My poor other children, they want me to "snap" out of it, they are really worried about me. I cant seem to make them understand I do NOT choose to be this way. I try to hide or wait until I am alone to let it all out when I can no longer contain it. I have literally cried everyday for the last 14 months.........everyday! My biggest escape is when I am in my car. Sometimes I drive by myself to my son's memorial site and I scream and curse the whole 10 minute ride. The markings of where my son was laying is still on the street! And the markings of where they marked the front and rear end of the motorcycle he was on, are also still there. My anger also worsens when I visit my son's final resting place, that dreadful cementary. I still go very often and I talk to him freely. When the weather was warmer, I would go everyday and I would get pissed off if someone tried to discourage me. Sometimes I sit there for hours in a daze, sometimes when i am there, i feel like my insides are going to explode. My sister-in-law lost her 10 month old son 16yrs ago and she never has the desire to go to his resting place because she told me that it makes his death a reality to her and she has NEVER accepted it. Everyone is different. She also told me that she will NEVER have a memorial stone placed at his resting place.
Sorry that I still have no encouraging words to offer but thanks to all that have listened.
Hi everyone... I'm so sorry for all of our losses here. Time does hurt more at times than it helps!
I lost Jesse 7 years ago. At first, another mother told me that the grief would get worse after the first year. I was horrified!! But she was right... after that first year, the shock really did wear off and it was worse....
After 7 years, I still feel the pain, but I want to give you hope... I am doing better. I can cope now, and have days when I actually feel normal... or mostly normal.
I know the anger you are all talking about.... it ruled me for the longest time, and still does, but now it seems to come only with triggers. Every time I hear someone complain about their life... or how "rough" they have things...It seems my sympathy has vanished completely for anyone who has not dealt with grief.
Hugs to you all
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