Has anyone lost someone to murder/

i get so angy at the man that did this to my husband.  He was already doing 25 to life when he killed Randy and they prosecuted him and gave him another 25 to life.  I think he should die.  Anger always turns into tears. it was such a senseless crime.  I feel so helpless and sad.  Randy was so young...only 40 years old.  We had our whole lives ahead of us and this man took that away.  it just isn't right.  Does anyone else feel this way?

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Permalink Reply by Deborah Dodds on May 12, 2011 at 2:45am
Kristal, our justice system sucks.  It is unfair to the families and yourself.  you have to relive it all over again and it is worse the second time around.  For your panic attatcs there is alot out there to help.  Cognitive behavioral therapy, of course medication which i take (xanax) meditation and breathing exercises or a combination of all of the above.  I am so sorry for your loss...so sudden and so traumatic.  do these murderers ever think about what it does to the loved ones of the victim?  It tears their life apart.
Permalink Reply by coachlouise on May 12, 2011 at 8:52pm
Please don't let him kill you with your anger . All your feelings are normal, however make an intention to live for Randy. He is with you in spirit, and he loves you. I send you healing love, Louise Rouse
Permalink Reply by Deborah Dodds on May 12, 2011 at 10:05pm
You are right Louise.  I am not going to allow that man to get to me through my anger.  I will and i do live for Randy.  I know he is with me in spirit.  I feel him a lot .  HE "talks" to me through telepathy.  Only things that he would say that is how i know it is him.  I must be calm and centered to hear him.  I do alot of journaling  just like I am writing to him.  That seems to really help.  Thanks for your comment, love Deb
Permalink Reply by Carly Michelle Hoskins on August 13, 2011 at 10:15pm

I am very sorry for your loss Deborah. My mama's best friend Tina, who was like my second mama, was murdered last December. The man who killed her also kidnapped her daughter, my best friend. I have so much anger towards him it ain't funny. The trial hasn't started yet, but I am hoping for the death penalty. Tina had so many people who loved her, and she loved so many people. She was an amazing person who had been through a lot. She deserved so much better than what she got. I just can't understand why this had to happen.

I really hope things get better for you, Deborah, and I hope you are doing okay. God bless.

Permalink Reply by Deborah Dodds on August 14, 2011 at 11:56am

carly, I am so very sorry for your loss.  The anger is understandable and to this day i am still angry.  It has been a year now and i am doing better.  i get hit with waves of sadnes every once in a while and cry all day.  It just doesn't seem fair.

 

I hope things get better for you too.  God Bless

Permalink Reply by Carly Michelle Hoskins on August 14, 2011 at 8:47pm
It isn't fair, Deborah. It always seems to hit me like a ton of bricks, and at the worst possible times, like when I'm in school, or anywhere out in public.

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