I lost my grandma in May and it has been so hard to deal with. She helped raise me and I was closer to her than I am to my mom. I've been studying abroad since August and while I've been gone I've wanted to share everything with my grandma. I've experienced so much and I know she would have loved to hear the stories and gossip and to have seen what I bought, however I know she can't. So instead I've begun writing a journal to her. I write it as if I was talking to her, adding things we would've laughed about and that she would have wanted to known about and seen. It has helped some. Although I know she's not going to be able to read it, it helps me think that she knows, that I've told her first especially since she always hated knowing something last, had to have the gossip and news first. I don't know if anyone else has written like this, but it's a suggestion, it might help some.

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Hi katie. I'm new to the site and saw your posting. Like the others who have replied I do write to my mom who died 2 years ago. I generally tell her how much I miss her but recently I have begun asking her for help in getting me through my overwhelming grief and lonliness from another loss. My mom is the only person in whom I can confide and share my feelings without judgement. After reading some of the replies I think I will begin talking to her about the things/interests we shared when she was alive. I miss our conversations. Writing to those you have lost can be very healing and provides, at least for me, some rare moments of peace. I'm sorry for your loss and understand the pain. Bless you and everyone on this site whose compassion for each other is so evident. I feel so fortunate to have found this site. - Eileen
Thank you. That made me smile. I lost my brother Dec. 5 2010 and I've been writing to him ever since. Just the same as if  I were talking to him. I dont know if anything has really helped yet, but I know that I feel closer to him when I write in it.
One of the first gifts to my late wife was a diary which she only wrote in once in a while. Since her passing, I write to her in the same diary, trying to feel as if I am speaking to her. Some deep and hidden feeling inside of me wishes she could write back to me, but I know that she can't. Yet I will continue to write but it gives me some comfort since her passing.
I took over writing in Denise's journal. I write to her what happens as if she's reading because I feel she can if she wants. I also talk to her all the time.

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