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Permalink Reply by Michelle on March 28, 2016 at 5:02pm

I have never gone down the psychic road and have never had one dream about my husband. April 26 will be one year since he passed away. Like you we talked all the time, every day on our way home from work, etc...I have to believe that this means he is at peace. I have often asked him to send me a sign that he is near but I don't get any, maybe I do and just don't recognize them. Although I feel his presence in my house and that he is watching over me and protecting me. I miss him every single moment of every single day. He was the love of my life.

Permalink Reply by Robin Quinn on March 28, 2016 at 5:15pm

I have had different messages from my husband since he passed on Jan. 20.  I find dimes where I least expect them, I feel like someone is laying beside me on the bed sometimes.  I have had some really amazing things happen.  I didn't dream about him until last night though, but someone else had a dream of him where he told them he was ok and happy.  You might be getting messages of some kind without realizing it.

Permalink Reply by bluebird on March 28, 2016 at 8:54pm

I haven't been to a psychic, but I have been to a medium. I don't know for sure if my husband was communicating with me through her, but I do think it's possible. At the very least, I don't think she is a scammer -- that is, I think that she believes in what she is doing.  If you want to look into possibly having a reading with her, her name is Janet Nohavec. She does readings both in person and via phone. She costs about $100 for a reading, if I remember correctly, and has quite a long waiting list (I had to wait over a year, because she was so booked up).  She has been doing this for about 20 years.

Anyway, as far as contact from my husband directly -- I'm really not sure. I have definitely had things happen that may be signs from him, but I cannot help but doubt, because it is SO important to me that my husband still exists, that he is still happy, that he is still himself, and that we will be together again. My husband was in a band with my sister, my brother-in-law, and their friend, for about 15 years.  He died in September 2012, and either that December or the following (I don't remember which), the band was doing a gig at a coffee house they played many times with my husband in the past. Before the gig I said out loud to him that I wished he were there where he belonged, with the band (he's a drummer, so he was usually in the back).  That night, I saw his face (all of his features -- eyes, mouth, nose -- as well as his baseball cap that he always wore) in the black curtain in the window behind where they were playing. Other people saw the same thing, even though all I said to them was "Do you see anything in that curtain?". I didn't tell them what I saw, but they all saw him, independently.

There have been other things as well -- touches, songs, thoughts.  He died 3.5 years ago, and I have never once had a real dream about him, only nightmares in which he leaves me or I leave him, or he cheats on me or I cheat on him (none of which ever happened in real life, and none of which ever would have happened).  Those suck.  I've never had a good dream with him in it, since he died, and I've never had a real "visitation" dream. I wish I would. Really I wish he would actually come to me, while I am awake, that he would literally appear before me visually, that he would speak to me so that I could hear him, and listen to what I say and respond, and let me know that he still exists, is ok, is still himself, and that we will be together again.

Permalink Reply by Jesse's Mom on April 8, 2016 at 4:55pm

Could you message me the videos you are using? I am just curious. You may also want to check out William Buhlman and Jurgen Ziewe as they practice altered states of consciousness as you describe. Yes, it can work.

Permalink Reply by O.L. Cato on April 10, 2016 at 9:59am

I pray for contact.  John did not believe in such things.  I wonder.  He has been gone for 105 days and a few things have happened but I'm not sure.  From time to time I smell his scent so strongly.  It's like being in his arms.  I have had three very short dreams about him the first was the night he died.  No words, he just stood by the bed with his arms out as if to hold me.  I recall my "newish" electric can opener not working  and without thinking, I said out loud. "come on John, give me a hand here".  It  started working immediately.  The first time I turned on my car radio, the first song and from the very beginning, that I heard was the Statler Bros. singing, "I'll go to my grave loving you."  I had to pull over and cry.  It HAD to be a  a message from John.  On John's last day, he would look at me and smile, at least a dozen times, and say, "Are you still my girl?"  Of course,  He used to say things like that but not over and over.  It makes me wonder if he "knew".  Kathleen I hope you have luck.  I HAVE to believe there is still my John somewhere.  God bless us all.

Permalink Reply by 0vmytxwpqk0r5 on June 5, 2016 at 10:11pm

My husband died 5 months ago, we were married 35 yrs. and talked nonstop.  He told me if he went first, he would make himself known in "subtle" ways so as not to scare me.  I find lights on, lost items reappear, I have found articles from magazine he tore out on the floor - like he wanted me to read them.  And I did and the information was important.  The dogs would be watching "something" move through the room with tails wagging and no barking. The doorbell rang at 2:30 am about a month ago.  I called the police and they did a drive by - nothing.  I noticed after that night that there is nothing now.  I hope the "subtle" signs have stopped because he is at rest now and he knows I will be alright, eventually.  For months I cried myself senseless wishing for 5 more minutes to talk with him, cursing the doctors for not telling me he might die in the night (they scheduled a test for the next day) and berating myself for not remembering my last words to him. I don't feel his presence anymore but I see his life all around me, the house he bought me, the dogs he loved, 40 CDs of those awful Irish drinking songs, the 32 photos of him I have around the house speak to me - we had an incredible life together.  

Permalink Reply by Jesse's Mom on June 6, 2016 at 4:34pm

Dear Mary, I am sorry for the loss of your dear husband. I had to smile though when you wrote about his awful Irish drinking songs. There are those once-so-funny-uniquely-his kind of things that tear at the heart strings...

Sending gentle thoughts your way.