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Permalink Reply by FJ McCoin on July 20, 2010 at 2:44pm

I lost my parents last November. My mother passed away on the 14th and my father passed away on the 19th. I had them a double viewing and double funeral. People said it was lovely and beautiful. It was like a love story. They wanted to be together. They were together in life and now they were together in death. How tragic yet how wonderfu. I just wanted to scream ever time I heard that. How was I suppose to go on. Both of my parents were gone. Who would love me unconditionally now? They were always there for me. They laughed at my jokes they were my refuge in times of trouble. I was a ship cast out to sea without a sail. What am I do?
I know that they are in a better place and they are not suffering now. I am selfish to want them back. They would want me to go on with my life and not be sad. I am trying to be brave and not be sad. Every day is a challenge because instead of missing them less I miss them more. I keep their pictures around me so it is sort of like they are kind of here with me. Silly as it may sound I talk to the pictures like its them because it helps me cope.
I may never get over them being gone because they were and are a big part of my life. A hole is in my heart that will never be filled until I see them again.

Permalink Reply by barb blake on July 6, 2011 at 6:28pm

 

Ive only read one post here so far

and my heart break

 

and Ive just lost my Mom June 20th

 

hope I dont get too depressed here

 

I do know one thing

Life goes on

 

and I am blessed to be a cancer thriver of many years

so I must move ahead with help and support

but.. days are precious

 

best to all again

 

Sedona :)

 

Time is so precious

 

Permalink Reply by Sherri Martin on July 7, 2011 at 3:44pm

Hi, Julie

I just wanted to say Thank You for creating this group.  I cared for my mom for 5 months after she was diagnosed with Lymphoma in July 2007 and those weeks and days are still so precious to me.  Many could not understand how I could leave my home in Colorado and my job to go be with her.  I could not understand what the question was!  I was not about  to let her cope with that without me there, even when we weren't sure of the outcome.  She was my mother, my best friend, my ally....if there was the slightest chance she was not going to survive, how could I NOT be there.  I would never have been able to forgive myself.  Fortunately, my husband was extremely supportive and even took a 2nd job since we lost my income.  I ended up staying on after she passed away at their home, in hospice, on Jan. 8, 2008.  My son was with me and I didn't want to uproot him in school mid-year.  I also wanted to help my dad cope in those first months as he was equally devastated.  On Christmas day 2009, I flew him out from VA to CO to manage his care not realizing he was already in renal failure. After repeated hospitalizations when he arrived here, he chose to go into hospice himself at the end of February 2010.  He passed away in my brother's home where I cared for him after he went into hospice.  I truly feel like an orphan and never realized, at my ripe ol' age of 54 (now) that I'd miss them so much, especially my mom.  Again, thank you for starting this group.  It helps not to feel so alone.

Permalink Reply by Stefanie Parise on July 13, 2011 at 8:37pm

Thank you so much for starting this group.. It's so hard to find people who know exactly what it's like to be an adult yet still feel like a lost child without his/her parents.

 

And in response to "who will love me now?" - your parents still love you, even if they are not physically here anymore. They will never truly be gone as they are in your heart, and love is something that doesn't ever die. Love is the most powerful emotion on this planet. <3