On June 20 our 21 year old daughter died by suicide. She had been diagnosed with anxiety and depression which manifested itself as insomnia. She was beautiful, intelligent, talented, athletic and kind. We tried every way we knew to help. She was in the care of a psychiatrist and psychologist as well as her GP. She wrote in her letter she just didn't see her "life going anywhere". We have 3 daughters still with us. It has been hard on each one of us in different ways. Katie has a twin sister. My heart breaks thinking how hard this has been on her twin. Katie and Erin were so incredibly close, best friends, one half of a whole. Erin recently had to return to school and the apartment she shared with Katie. That was a very difficult thing for her. We talk frequently throughout the week. We have been traveling weekends to spend time with her. Anyone else out there have any advice on other ways we can be helpful? We also spend time wih our other daughters and make sure they get together as frequently as possible.

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Dear Marilyn,
Thank you for your kind and understandin words. I am sorry for your loss. I am also sorry that you are in a community that is not very supportive of you and your situation. I am glad you found this site to help you work through "this". To call it a "situation" or "time" implies it is temporary. This is not temporary, this is the rest of our lives. I am sorry for your loss and your pain.
LeAnn

I'm so sorry for your loss.

I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your daughter. Loss is hard no matter what the situation and no matter what the age-but losing someone so young and to suicide, for that matter, is very difficult and hard.

I lost a close family friend to suicide less than 1 year ago. The cause of death being suicide makes things so difficult and a lot hard to deal with, in my opinion. Losing someone to suicide leaves so much heartache, feelings of guilt, blaming, etc. When the "survivors" of suicide have to move on there is so much that is questioned. 

Losing someone to suicide has made me question things that I never questioned before. I know that you are not supposed to question-that everything happens for a reason but some times that is easier said than done.

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family every day!! Hang in there!! Just be there for each other-take things one sec, one minute, one hour, one day at a time-that is all you can do!! Lean on the loved ones that surround you and will be able to help you through this tough time.

Much love!! 

Brittney,

You are so right, loss is hard no matter what. I now feel my job here on Earth is to live the best life I possibly can, help as many people as I can so I can get to be with Katie in heaven. It will seem like a long time here, but when I see her it will seem like no time at all. Thank you for your kind words. I wish you well.

LeAnn

((((Hugs to you LeAnn)))))

Anne,

Thank you for your kindness. I am constantly overwhelmed by people's kindness. I don't think I would have survived this long if not for the kindness of others. Thank you.
(((Hugs)))

LeAnn
LeAnn
I am so sorry you lost your beautiful daughter. We love them so much and do everything we can to
Protect them. I too lost my 26 year old daughter on August 17 th. The pain of a broken heart feels unrelenting. I am taking one day at a time. Lynn
Lynn,

I am so sorry for your loss. I have days that when I keep busy I feel pretty ok and then if I have a minute of stillness, a minute to breathe or think, the disbelief of "Katie is gone" washes over me. It is hardest when I'm alone. It is a feeling of absolute panic. Like you, I am taking one day at a time. Take care.

LeAnn

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