It's still so unreal, some days almost feels like a bad dream I can't wake up from.  My church has been terrific and there are many women who are widows but they are a bit older than me and have been widowed for a while.  Would so help to talk to anyone who is dealing with or has dealt with this situation and little more recently.

Thanks!!

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It is beyond bizarre.  And then there are family (his) issues as well.  Nothing can be simple.  I'm so sorry about your mum.  I lost my dad on September 5, 2005 and it took me awhile to be able to think of him and be happy not totally sad.  On the day he died, I called my mom and she told me something that I thought was quite profound.  She said "it's really hard losing a parent because your parents are the two people in the world that have to love you, no matter what".  

I will talk to you about your loss of your husband I lost my husband aug 2011, seems like yesterday, my bad dream keeps going on and on.

I so sorry Kathy. 

there is no reason to be sorry, we are all in this together we will find comfort here. Friends here will support you, we all go through the grieving process at different stages, but the hurt still hurts. No one understand the hurt. Keep in touch.

 

ZHi there. I'm in a very near place. Its been four months for me. My husband Jess passed after a two year battle with stage iv small bowel cancer on march 6.  He had colon cancer 11 years prior to being diagnosed with terminal cancer in his small intestines.  My children and I have been lucky to have great support from friends during the illness but now that the fight ended , I find myself pulling away some. No one in my circle of friends and contacts is  a widow and just dont understand. I  find it extremely lonely.  but I manage to get thru each day somehow.  You will too.  I can always lend an ear as I know how often times you just need someone to 'hear'you, not just listen.  Kristen

This is terribly lonely, isn't it?  And like you said, I have lots of good support on the ready but I'm not really ready for it.  It's like I have to do the first part by myself and then I can accept some help.  

I did go to my first support group meeting last week which was really helpful.  I'm just exhausted from this roller coaster of emotions.  And I'm not sleeping.  Ugh.

Thanks so much for replying.

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