Are there other murder victims families in this online support group? If so I would love to hear from you. All deaths are a tragedy, but when it is murder you can not just grieve for your loss. You have to deal with catching the criminal, trials, etc... I don't think we will be able to cope with it all.

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I am sorry to hear of your loss. You are probobly having alot of difficulties coping with the holidays. I know our first Christmas ( last year) without Mark was so hard for all of us. I am glad they know who murdered your daughter, & I hope you get justice. Thank you for replying. Sometimes you feel as though you are the only ones going through it even though there are hundreds, if not thousands of people murdered every year. If you need to talk let me know. If I don't reply right away don't give up. I am having some computer problems so I have to check my comments at work till after Jan. I will say a prayer for you and your family.
I hope your family is coping ok. I have thought of your daughter alot since your response. I hope that your family will get a speedy trial. Did her estranged husband confess? I hope so that will make things alot easier. Hope you and you family have a peaceful holiday.
hi donna, im jan. my situation is not exactly like that, but yet in some way it is. my daughter was born almost 14 years ago. due to MEDICAL NEGLINGENCE she was brain damaged at birth. the years following was an ongoing daily fight for her life. i loved her more than anything in the world. jessy died last year.
although it was a L-O-N-G battle, the bottom line is, i feel they murdered my child. its different, cos ive had many years i know, to deal with that part. even sued them and won the case, while attending to my child. but you know what? it brought no satisfaction or closure to me. deep down they did what they did, i still dont know how to come to terms with that, or them. and i miss my jessy more than anything. somehow, with time, you find peace. SOMEHOW, it just happens. somewhere deep inside, you know that G-d wanted the person you lost, to come home to Him.
its not an easy road. i'm here to talk to whenever you need. lots of love, jan.
if i dont reply to next post, im offline for a week now
Thank you jan for your reply. I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I know alot about medical neglingence, I work for a medical malpractice lawyer. It is like murder. I think your pain may even be even worse when you have to deal with what they did every day for 14 years. I will reply more later. Just got called to talk to boss and at the moment my only computer is at work. I have you in my prayers. Talk again soon.
Jan, I hope you and your family have a peaceful holiday. You are inn my prayers,
On August 6, 2009 my mother was brutally and senselessly murdered in her own home by two men during an apparant robbery/burglary attempt. We just sat through the preliminary hearing which was the most painful day of my life. No one should have to hear of how the woman who gave them life and loved us unconditionally left this world with 55 stab wounds, 13 blunt trauma wounds, and was strangled on top of all of that. My heart aches not only for the loss but for the act in which she was taken away, 2 weeks shy of her 59th birthday. And just weeks shy of the birth of her first GREAT Grandchild. She was so excited and oh so proud, as she was of all of her six children... and eleven grandchildren. My mother was my very Best friend who I could talk to about anything. She had a heart of gold and would give the shirt off her back to anyone in need. She will live on through all of us though, as she would have wanted it to be. For she was so proud of her children and left behind a piece of her spirit within each and every one of us which we will continue to shine brightly in her honor. Visit www.inmemoryofcindyramos.com for further information and to honor this loving woman. This is the website I have created in my mothers honor and memory. Merry Christmas to you all and may we all somehow find the strength to make it through these holidays with this pain which we all now unfortunately know to be so real. It is the support of others and forums like this that truly can help in getting each other through our tragedies. Peace be with you all.
I am so sorry to hear about your mother. I know the hardest part of a murder is knowing what the victim went through. I did enough investigating of my own to know how my brother suffered and I am dreading my mother and father having to suffer through the peliminary, (mid Jan.) I hope your family will get justice. How long till the trial starts?
Michael, I will be praying you are granted custody of Brett Joseph.

Laura
What a beautiful picture!! I wil pray that you get custody of your grandchild and I hope that might help in your grieving process.
Our peliminary hearing is Tues. , so please say a prayer for us.
You and your family will be in my thoghts & prayers.
Hi donna,
On jan 14 2004 My mother Jane and sister Kinisha were gunned down in their own home by my mother's ex boyfriend. While following the thought that it was done by her ex they found the bodies of his two roommates. He was caught with the murder weapon to the roommates murders but not of my family. He was never charged with the murder of my mother and sister because they could not find the murder weapon, apparently they had been dead for a few days when they were found. The police have not been very cooperative at all i feel as if they just told me what i wanted to hear. They told me that since he had been in the house before that any fingerprint evidence was void. I know in my heart that he is responsible for their deaths. It's been six years this week and it seems as if in some ways it gets worse. I will never understand why someone would be as selfish as to end a life because someone doesn't want them anymore. i am glad that i have finally found others that i can speak with about this.
So sorry to hear not only of your loss but also for the fact that you have not seen justice. I'm sure losing two family members is completely devastating. You information made me nervous. They have never found the knife my brother was stabbed with. is your case still open or is it a cold case? I will say a prayer that you will get justice.
Thank you for your prayers. The case is cold. The guy is in jail on two consecutive life sentences because of the other murders he committed. The city where it occurred is a suburb of pittsburgh pa called Mckeesport that has a lot of crime. They are literally backed up for at least six years on dna evidence, i think since the main suspect is in jail they don't want to waste their time with someone that is already not getting out of jail. But the police involved have a lot to account for the whole situation has a lot of negligence attached to it. My Mother called the police 6 times the week before she died, also she had three pfa's against this man and a few days before she died her phone lines were cut. the last time i talked to her she had told me that she had broken it off with him for good and he hadn't taken it well he told her she made him crazy. Six days later she and my sister were found by four of my sister's fourteen year old friends. The first thing any of them said was that they thought he did it and yet with all of that evidence eventhough it was circumstantial he still hadn't been charged. Now you tell me if the police in that town try at all to work hard. sorry for rambling it's just good to speak with someone who knows somewhat how i feel. was the person in your brother's murder charged? i am truly sorry for your loss as well the loss of a sibling is torture for me i know it must be the same for you.

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