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Permalink Reply by Joanne Welch on May 13, 2012 at 9:05pm

I'm so sorry for your loss.  Not sure how much help I can be - I'm going through exactly the same thing.  I lost my husband 2 weeks ago too.  We were married for 15 years.  He was my best friend and we did everything together.  He was the only one who really understood me.  I also feel very lost. I understand what you're going through and I'm here for you if you need it.  

Permalink Reply by J Lucas on May 13, 2012 at 9:12pm

I am thankful for the time that we had together and the loved that we shared. I just wish we had more time and I miss him being here with me. I miss talking to him the most, we talked about any and everything. I miss his hugs and hearing his voice. I find myself talking sometimes like hes still here, I wake up and say Good morning Pudah and I say Good night before bed. it sounds crazy but I miss him. I understand how you feel because we were very close also.

 

Permalink Reply by Lynne M. on May 14, 2012 at 12:41am

So very sorry for your loss and I think you can find a lot of support on here.  What you're experiencing is normal but that doesn't make it any less difficult, I know.  I lost my husband about six weeks ago now and I wish that we'd had much more time together, too - and we were married for almost 42 years.  So, whether you were together for a short time or a long time, losing the person you love is just plain miserable.  It's definitely losing a part of ourselves and it's a major, major adjustment to go through.  "Lost" is a perfect description of those initial feelings, that's for sure.  All I can say is, that from my experience, it does get easier with time.  That's probably not much comfort right now but hang on to that thought.  I wish you all the best and, again, send my sincere condolences.  L.

Permalink Reply by J Lucas on May 14, 2012 at 5:34pm

Sorry for your loss. Thanks for the encouraging words, Im trying my best to make it through each day. My family and friends are trying to keep me busy but it doesnt replace the fact that he is not here. It just seems unreal and when I think about it I just start to cry. I hope it gets better with time.

 

Permalink Reply by Sandie Eader on June 20, 2012 at 10:22am

Sorry for your loss. My husband of 36 years passed away October 2, 2010. Because it was so sudden and I watched as I was on the phone with 911, it echoes in my head and I relive that nearly every day. It has not been easier for me and it feels like yesterday. I agree that a long or short time does not matter at all. I wish it was easier but everytime I think I am doing better, I spend the day crying. This (early) morning as I opened the verticle blinds in front of our sliding glass door, there were 2 beautiful moths on the screen. That made me smile and I thought of my husband sending me a message. I know it will all be ok someday and I will see  him again.

Permalink Reply by J Lucas on June 6, 2012 at 3:42pm

Thanks, I have my two best friends as my support team . I also have my two sisters and my mom. My Dad just passed away on May 21 2012. so now i have been hit with a double loss. Thanks for the support I will keep in touch with you. No im not working, but im thinking about going back to work. I also just started a grief counseling.

 

Permalink Reply by Debra Waszut on June 2, 2012 at 10:47pm

I oo lost my husband two weeks ago.  I understand what you are going through totally.  We did everything together and were best of friends too.  He made my day, my life.  You are not alone.  Somehow finding this site has helped me. I hope it helps you too.

Permalink Reply by J Lucas on June 6, 2012 at 3:44pm

Sorry for your loss. I know its really hard and that you miss your husband too. im glad that I found this site and im going to make an effort to reach out to others. Im sending you a friend request

Permalink Reply by Denise Gilbert on June 2, 2012 at 10:59pm

I found this site while searching for some type of help to cope with the anger and sadness I am feeling after losing my husband of 5 years suddenly 2 weeks ago.  There seem to be others going through the same thing and I hope that reading your words will help.  I just don't understand why this happened to such a good man and I don't want to survive without him.  My life feels empty.

Permalink Reply by Debra Waszut on June 4, 2012 at 8:38pm

So sorry for your loss.

 

Permalink Reply by Halie Smith on June 14, 2012 at 7:20pm

Hi J Lucas, I guess its been about 2 months since i lost my soul mate. The days are just jumbling together. Michael was my everything and without him i have nothing. I am so lost and lonely for him. I am only 24 but we had built our lives around each other; he was my life. Im not sure how im living and he is not here. The world is a dark nightmare of a place without my baby in it.  He always promised me that now that he found me nothing was going to take him away from me and he would always be there for me. I am angry with him that i dont feel he is keeping that promise and he knew i need him more then anything in the world. I am in so much pain and I understand how you feel. I havent really reached out to anyone for help but maybe it would be good to join a support group in you community. I have been thinking I might try something like that myself.