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Although I cannot say I know exactly how you feel, I do appreciate where you are coming from. I too struggle with the idea of trying to heal, and in my case potentially move on with someone else, without losing the man we loved so dearly. By wanting to heal there comes an idea that we don't want to remember anymore, and that is totally not true. And I know this is going to be easier said than done, but I don't believe God took him from you to punish you, although I have had that thought several times myself. Why things have happened the way they did is something that will drive us mad if we dwell too much. One thing I can tell you, I lost my older brother (he was 13) to cancer when I was only 9. To this day I can still see his face in my mind and the memories we shared are still as vivid today as they were 28 years ago. Healing is not losing them. Healing is being able to breathe while remembering them.
I cannot imagine how you feel, Robin. I lost my son, so our grief is different. What I do know though, is that you did not do anything to make this happen. It is not your fault and I truly feel our God is not a punishing God...though I respect others may feel differently. I don't know why people die and I don't know why our hearts break open so widely with pain. It is excruciating. Your post makes it clear how much you loved and love your husband; that truth will never change. I'm so sorry. May God bless us all and bring us healing in any, and every way possible.
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