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Comment by Tiffany on March 24, 2015 at 7:35pm

Thank you so much Valerie and I'm sorry for your lost as well.... I feel the exact same way you do right now I don't sleep at all for the most parts and on other days I just cry until morning comes I've always been a fighter but I've never been so drained like this before I'm tired

Comment by Valerie on March 24, 2015 at 4:33pm

Hi Tiffany,

I'm so, so very sorry for your loss. When I read your post, it  was like it was coming straight out of my heart and mind and soul. I lost my husband 51 days ago. Today, I am having a VERY bad day. Had to leave work at lunch to cry again! The longer that times passes the more I realize he is NEVER coming home. I pray for a sign that he is around me, a pray if he can't show me a sign, that maybe God can. I have seen nothing. I want to know he is okay. My heart just aches, I keep thinking I will feel a little less pain, but it just seems to go on and one. I know it's not been that long, but I'm not sure how much pain I can handle. My life seems so empty, boring, it has no meaning. I feel like I'm being tortured in a way, forced to get up everyday and realize once again, he is gone. I want to feel at least "somewhat" normal again. The pain is so overwhelming at times. You hang in there! I'm not much at boosting your mood, I'm sure!! :) But, you are not alone and I'm thinking about you.
Valerie

Comment by Tiffany on March 22, 2015 at 12:24pm

Thank you for the words of encouragement MarieSte and I'm sorry for your loss as well the poem is beautiful!

Comment by MarieSte on March 22, 2015 at 6:37am

Tiffany, the reality is that you will grieve forever. You will not "get over" the loss of your loved one; you will learn to live with it. You will heal and you will rebuild yourself around the loss you have suffered. You will be whole again, but you will never be the same. Nor should you be the same, nor would you want to be. You will get through it with baby steps at your own pace. Everyone's journey is unique and only you can decide what's right for you and which path to take. By using this site you will know you are not alone. Others can relate to your loss. I have been able to move forward with baby steps by expressing my grief through writing and also with the knowledge that my boyfriends spirit and love will be with me forever. He has sent me signs that he now sees through my eyes and he has put thoughts in my head. He helps me write my poems as I never wrote before his death. It is still hard I still miss him so much but somehow I have learned to live with the pain.  Bless you on your journey. Here is an article and poem I wrote to shed a little light on your new path. http://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/profiles/blogs/the-grief-journey-...

Comment by Tiffany on March 21, 2015 at 11:28pm

Thank you Heather, and I'm sorry for your lost as well.... This is a journey that is very draining mentally and emotionally.... Thank you so much for reaching out I could always use a friend who understands what it feels like going through this

Comment by Heather on March 21, 2015 at 10:17pm

My condolences on your loss. I know how you feel. I lost my best friend almost 5 years ago. He was the love of my life. I still feel that pain. I don't think there's much I can say to make you feel better. But I just want you to know that I'm here for you if you ever need someone to talk to.