managing ??

Well Iam not managing I did force myself to go to the gym,they show a movies in one of the excersize rooms so I do alot of time on the exersize machine watching the movies . I keep thinking of a social life.Gosh! did you ever see so many grief sites on the internet.Iam still at odds with the hosp over my wifes treatment.Of course yes! Iam sure there was a professional medical thing going there. Who knows maby Ill get back with the hosp.However whats done is done what can you do.

I have never been one to socialize or have friends so that is a big hurdle for me .I certainly don,t want to end up alone and depressed(I cannot deny Iam not right now) .I realize things take time.I also realize life is not going to be handed to me on a silver platter(it never has)Thats one of the lessons I think everyone has already learned.Oh yes never to late ,to realize the value of friends over the long haul.  

Its raining again in austin tx ,which is good,considering the drought conditions Tx has suffered.Now my back yard will be overgrown with weeds (some grass there)  

anyway I manage for all its worth  ,and yes!! excersize is good for you

 

dave

 

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Comment by Sandra Nichols on July 23, 2012 at 10:45am

Hi David, I am not managing well either.

The one good thing , though, a small think i know, is that you are trying. I'm reading some grief counseling books but, know i need to see someone also for support. I do plan on attending some support groups but right now, just can't do it. I"m still wrapped up in denial and anger and don't want to talk to people like this. 

My mom who was my best friend (She lived with me for over 10 years) has been gone about 8 months , now. I also don't want to just be alone but, it is so hard just to go to work right now. On weekends, it is embarrassing but, i just lay in bed and try to sleep 24 hours a day. I go to work and take care of my yard and see my sister. that is about it. I have decided not to throw out mom's things right now. You are not alone with your thoughts and feelings. I also know that other things could have been done for mom with the cancer treatment which did take her life. But it is so easy to look back on things after the worst happens. I know the doctors would have done things differently if they could see into the future. 

Comment by irwin Dresner on July 16, 2012 at 5:22pm

Hi Dave,

     My wife died almost 3 years ago.  I am all by myself.  Even though I leave messages on my daughters answer machine I can go for weeks without a call.  My neibors do not say hello anymore.  I come home to an empty house.   I try to keep busy writting poems and a book.  I can understand what you are going thru.  I do lots of exercise but my depression stops me from feeling better.     I am an old combat veteran from the korea war and believe me combat was easier.   I am an inventor but that does not help me.    i signed up on some of the services to find someone but the websites were scams.  I wanted someone close by and they sent me someone from Russia, Canada etc.   Believe me Ia paid a lot of money but I will go after them.    I had gone for grief help but it still there.  I just started going to the VA. 

Dave I wish you all the luck in feeling better.   I am in New York.  I have a cousin in Texas.  I am giving you my e-mail in case I can help.

Irwin

IRWINHAM@VERIZON.NET     

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