Just wanted everyone on here to know that I am thinking about you all.  

Was doing some research on death rates, based on 1 out of every 113 people in the world that died last year, there is 1.78 deaths per second, 107 deaths per minute, 6,390 deaths per hour, 153,000 deaths per day, 56.0 million deaths per year, 3.9 billion deaths per average lifetime (70 years).

I was amazed, had no idea, every second someone dies?  I always heard this but never verified it!

Just when I thought that grief taught me a lot, there is still more.

This really makes me so much more aware of who we are and where we're going!

Of what evolves continuously around us and is so much out of our control.

There's a word -  'control'.  I'm learning to control my grief by evaluating my thoughts and feelings.

Reminiscing about my wife and mother for some reason just doesn't hurt as bad as weeks ago.  

When I feel sadness coming on I stop and ask, now why am I getting sad? Well, what more do I expect, my wife and mother died.  Do I think that I'm supposed to be doing cartwheels on my front lawn or something?  

Pretend your brain is a radio (and I'm sure you're wondering where my brain is by now), and just while you're reading this post, just change the station from the one we've been on, 'The Grief Channel'.

How do you change the channel, first of all, take a break from the grief, it will be there for a while so put it on hold for just a couple of minutes while you read on.

You have now transcended beyond your brain radio, and have tuned into your mind radio

It is said that grief develops the power of the mind.  Our minds are psychic organs attached to our souls.

Just as our minds can create thoughts into feelings, and cause us to get stuck in the pit, our thoughts have the power to control our feelings and can motivate us to rise out of the grief pit, at least temporarily and long enough to let us catch our breath and have less chest pains .

Life is so much about emotion and feeling, stress and traffic, money and our stupid ass credit score!

At least while we are learning about our grief we may have a clue of what to expect?  Maybe yes, maybe no?

Life is a mystery for sure, has to be, or else we would know everything!

That's what I am getting out of my grief, the learning to accept, learning more about life, love, happiness. Learning to evaluate the heavy burdening feelings of grief through thinking about what started it, why it is so heavy, what should I do about these feelings, and more importantly, what CAN I do!

Thinking this whole grief thing through, from start to finish, while constantly trying to be aware and conscious of all of the people going through this with me every second of every day really helps me also.  

Grief is to be expected in everyone's life, we just don't really ever expect it to happen to us.  I certainly never did.

Aren't we just naive sometimes!!

When you feel at the end of your rope, just think of 1 person dying every second, and how many family members per second are beginning to grieve.

See, we're not alone.  We're all on the same bus.  

Doesn't have to be a bus though, how about a Limo?  

No, there would have to be a lot of limo's.  You can get a lot more people in a bus than in a limo!  Plus, with all of those limo's, it would be really hard to get around.  Too many traffic jams!
I had better stop here before I get car sick! 

Grief is just mortality rubbing itself in our faces.  We are greater and more powerful than it.  It is very difficult and I do hope in this lifetime that I don't ever have to experience it ever again. But if the bus comes around again, I guess i will just have to hop on it.  

Amazing it is how it can make us feel so alone......Now that's a joke because nobody is alone in grief, the reality is that it just feels that way!  Feelings can be tricky huh?

You are free to change your mind radio back to the old channel again if you really want to, or you can stay here with me and try to make it a daily routine to use your mind and its power of thought to allow us to catch our breath from the massive weight of grief.

Hey, grief can be hazardous to our health.  I was never told that before, had to look it up! 

Let's all try and make it better for ourselves today, and if it feels good to make it better for someone else, then that's a start!!!!

Anyway, I was just in a great mood today and had to submit this goofy post...

Make it a thinking it through day rather than a bad feeling day, and take care of yourself and someone else!

It's so rewarding,,,groovy like an old time movie!

Michael