Is this normal...

On the one year anniversary of my sister's passing. A mass is scheduled. Mom, dad and I plan to attend. Dad called brother-in-law to let him know we will stop by on our way to mass. He is fishing, but will be home in the afternoon. On arrival to their home, their two teenage boys are home watching tv. We chat with them. We decide to take some pictures of their lawn, plantings, flowers, etc. She loved her outside space. We get ready to leave and BIL pulls in with his boat. He brings his girlfriend and introduces her to my parents. My dad hides his feelings well and they shake hands. My mom has the look of disbelief on her face and hesitantly puts her hand out. The girlfriend looks very upset as to the cool reception. I feel bad for my parents. They are trying to support him through his grief, but this on the day of their daughter's death a year ago feels like a slap in the face...Help me understand. The girlfriend has been in the picture since two months after my sister's passing (long cancer battle).  

Views: 21

Comment

You need to be a member of Online Grief Support - A Social Community to add comments!

Join Online Grief Support - A Social Community

Comment by David H on October 2, 2012 at 12:49am

I guess its a matter of each persons feelings. The brother-in-law is doing well having a girlfriend after only a year Did he intend to go to mass or you just stopped by to say hi.He sounds like he wasn,t going to mass(fishing).Iam neutral here,usually when I comment I get blasted by the person writting the blog. If brother in law was planning to go to mass then Iam sure he would have said his girlfriend was coming (maby she woud decide not to got mass) I don,t know does he know how you felt or feel about his girlfriend ,maby it was becasue mass was going on . Would you and your parents welcome the girlfriend to go to mass.I can understand feelings of those closest to the loved one who passed away.For the sake of being able to being able to visit where your sister used to live and see the teenage boys just accept the girlfriends presence and move on  

Groups

Latest Activity

Gary Ruby is now a member of Online Grief Support - A Social Community
Tuesday
Welcome Them!
Julie is now a member of Online Grief Support - A Social Community
Nov 5
Welcome Them!
Speed Weasel commented on Speed Weasel's blog post A Return to GriefShare and a Crisis of Identity
"GriefShare is a church based support group. They do have meetings online, but the usual format is a group of people experiencing a loss getting together weekly to watch videos (13 weeks total) about grief and loss. After the video, we talk about the…"
Oct 21
Natasha commented on Speed Weasel's blog post A Return to GriefShare and a Crisis of Identity
"is griefshare a website like this?"
Oct 21
dream moon JO B updated their profile
Oct 16
Morgan Sangrouber is now a member of Online Grief Support - A Social Community
Oct 10
Welcome Them!
Addie replied to Kali's discussion It was not supposed to be like this in the group Being the Other Woman/Other Man
"Kali I’m so so sorry you are going through this. Grief is hard enough, but going through it secretly, all the while having to continue showing up for your kids, is just brutal. Perhaps your friend was careful to hide your conversations behind…"
Sep 26
Kali added a discussion to the group Being the Other Woman/Other Man
Thumbnail

It was not supposed to be like this

In 2014 I met the most amazing man ever. We were both in our very early 20s and were looking for different things at the time. We ceased communication for roughly 6 months. During which time, he completed basic training and joined the Air Force. By the time we reconnected he was already at his first duty station.. 8 hours away.We decided we wanted to continue our relationship and proceeded to cultivate a deeply emotional connection. Regular calls and video chats, visits while he was home on…See More
Sep 26
1 Comment

© 2024   Created by Ninja.   Powered by

Badges  |  Report an Issue  |  Terms of Service