Last October a week after I had major surgery my mother died of cancer. It was a relief at first because she was so sick. I seemed to handle it O.K. then my father died of heart failure 7 weeks later. It was such a shock. I got to the hospital and my husband just looked at me and shook his head and I just fell to the floor. We were just geting over that and my 90 year old grandmother fell and broke her hip and passed away in May. Everytime we try to move forward, we go backwards. I have two grown children, one of which is going through a real rough patch. She was just starting her first year of college when this all happened. She recently made a mistake and her boyfriend broke up with her after three years. I know all of what she is going through is because of all of the loss, but how do you make 19 & 20 year olds understand all of this. I guess I am really feeling sorry for myself. I wonder if we will ever be allowed to move forward and be happy. Everytime we try something else happens. My daughter is going to a psychiatrist for help next week. I hope it will help her. Seeing her in pain just brings back all of the pain for me.

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Comment by Debbie Lindley on September 26, 2009 at 9:09am
My kids and I seem to be doing a bit better. We are all in therapy. The youngest one went back to school and is back with her boyfriend and seems to be doing better. The oldest is still struggling. I finally was able to go to the cemetary. That was hard. The one year anniversay of my mothers death is a few weeks away. I still have a hard time believing that they are all gone.
Comment by Debbie Lindley on June 26, 2009 at 12:34pm
Thank you. I wish it would all go away too!!!!!
Comment by Diana, Grief Recovery Coach on June 26, 2009 at 10:24am
I'm so sorry. I wish I could make it all go away. (((((hugs)))))

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