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Comment by steacy del valle on December 2, 2010 at 5:41pm

i think you are a really strong person to have gone through what you went throughit my mom and im a wreck i cant imagin how it was for you. if you dont mind me asking what happened to her?

Comment by steacy del valle on December 2, 2010 at 5:40pm

im so sorry about your lost i know it is really hard. i think the reason ive been in an emotional wreck is because i havea son he is 1year and 3 months old and my brother has a son thats 1 year and 5 months they are her first grandkids but what makes it unbareable is that the man who killed my mom (her ex) he put my mom and i against each other for 9 years. she and i didnt have a great relationship because of him he made me out to be the black sheep of the family me and mom mom always fought because of him. before he came into the picture we really didnt fight or have problems. so i hated the guy and he new it and made everything bad between us. when she finally left him it was like i was finally getting my mom back the person i knew and loved. she was there when i had my son she was with me even with neorapathy in her legs and let me tell you i was in labor for 21 hours but she stayed. and its nowas a parent myself is when i know what a love of a mother is and how i wish i hadnt lost so much time fighting with her instead of just enjoying her while i had the chance how i wished she would have listen to me when i told her that guy was bad news. i just wish i would have called her that day and told her how much i love her. i underestimated her love for me andi can not get over that. i just wish we had more time to make upfor those 9 years

Comment by Stephanie on December 2, 2010 at 4:44pm

dearest steacy, i'm jan. your message touched my heart so deeply. i cant imagine how it is to lose a mother. a mother is the one who carried you in her womb, she is the one you were physically attached to by a cord. and i want you to know that no matter WHAT - whether physically here on earth, or in the heavens above, she is still attached to you by the cord. the cord has just changed form, like become a spiritual one. but it IS THERE, and no one can see it. but you can feel it, and she can feel it.
steacy, a mother is one who loves you unconditionaly. and you know what? it is a great sense of loss, when that very person is no longer here with us physically. but do you know something else? THERE ARE PEOPLE who care. i promise you there are. it just depends on finding those people. sometimes groups like these STILL feel lonely for you, but you will ALWAYS find someone who too, is suffering pain and loss and feelings of complete loneliness and lack of direction. when you DO find those people, TREASURE THEM. if you like, you can count me as one!!!
i lost my 12 year old daughter in 2008. i am a mom, and my baby is up there. but the cord is there, i know it is, i feel it. i have searched so long for meaning and purpose, and feelings that NO-ONE understands me.
i know you have fears like that even your boyfriend will leave. but i want to tell you something... whenever you are afraid, close your eyes, see your mom smiling at you from above, FEEL G-d smiling upon you and know deep down in your heart, that even though you dont understand why G-d has worked in this way, He DOES have a plan. trust in it. and think of people, and friends, like me, who WILL be there for you. feel the warmth and love in your heart. then open your eyes and you will feel warmer. always do it.
write to me whenever you want, lots of love, jan
you can write to my email: sentimentals@absamail.co.za