Hopefully I can help win this time.

Kenny, then Ben, and now Chris.  All terminal cancers.  What am I trying to do with Chris?  Not re-live past losses.  Am I trying to win this time to conquer past losses????

I hope that isn't it.

Cause Chris and I have had 20 yrs of friendship....we tried dating a long time ago, but realized we were better friends.  Through all life has been handing us, we have remained close.

Now I am standing by his side. Pancreatic cancer.  I have to question whether I am masochistic, or a great friend who is strong enough to handle this.

Will tell you one damn thing though------if I can help him beat this, he will.......

Susan

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Comment by anna l. on September 26, 2011 at 9:04pm

It sounds like you are being a great friend.  Others might step in not knowing what is to come, and they would be good friends or family for doing that.  But you have seen first hand not once, but twice how difficult end of life can be with cancer.  I give you huge credit for being able to accept that.  You already know how important it is to take care of you too.  Be the friend you can be proud of but do not be afraid to back away if that is what you need to do to be ok.  If he is as good a friend as you think he will understand you have been through so much already.  Hugs Susan, take care.

 

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