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Comment by Dennis C. on May 25, 2012 at 6:51am

Dear Davita

I am so very sorry for your terrible loss. There are no words that can properly express the pain we feel in circumstances like this. And there are no words that can take the pain away.

But we can comfort one another. We can give each other hope. About comfort, here is an interesting quote I came on one day.

  “ If you look for truth, you may find comfort in the end; if you look for comfort you will not get either comfort or truth only soft soap and wishful thinking to begin, and in the end, despair. ” 

I came to realize that only TRUTH can give me the comfort that gives me hope. So Truth is necessary at a time like this. And the truth about God and death is vital if we are to have any comfort at all.

For one, I learned that God does not cause death. God is not responsible for our loss. God views death as an enemy. God would never be the cause of so much heartache and grief. So many people are taught this painful thing, that God is the one who took our loved one. I can't wrap my head around that. I don't believe it.

2 Corinthians 1:3 Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of tender mercies and the God of all comfort, 4 who comforts us in all our tribulation, that we may be able to comfort those in any sort of tribulation through the comfort with which we ourselves are being comforted by God.

God as described above would never cause heartache. He is the God of comfort.

James 1:13 When under trial, let no one say: “I am being tried by God.” For with evil things God cannot be tried nor does he himself try anyone

So we see that God would never do something evil. And death is Evil. It accomplishes nothing good.

So why do we die? Why do we have to suffer like this? What hope is really the truth?

Romans 5:12 That is why, just as through one man sin entered into the world and death through sin, and thus death spread to all men because they had all sinned—

Ephesians 6:12 because we have a wrestling, not against blood and flesh, but against the governments, against the authorities, against the world rulers of this darkness, against the wicked spirit forces in the heavenly places.

These scriptures tell me that we all die (sometimes way to young) because we are all born in sin, not because of God but because of the first Man Adam. And that Satan the devil is really the ruler of this world. Death is a result of Satan the Devil and his partner Adam.

God is the solution.

John 5:28 Do not marvel at this, because the hour is coming in which all those in the memorial tombs will hear his voice 29 and come out,...

God's son Jesus will bring our loved ones back to life. Mark chapter 5 is one of my favorite accounts in the Bible.

Notice this account

And, taking the hand of the young child, he said to her: “Tal´i·tha cu´mi,” which, translated, means: “Maiden, I say to you, Get up!” ... And immediately the maiden rose and began walking, for she was twelve years old. And at once they were beside themselves with great ecstasy.

This is a scripture from the Bible book of Mark (chapter 5 verses 41 and 42)

We can only imagine how those parents felt. Their precious child had died. But now Jesus had reunited them. He had given her life again. The verse says that the parents were "beside themselves with great ecstasy." 

We are beside ourselves with great heartache and sadness because of our loss and don't see the way out sometimes. But Jesus proved that he is greater than even death itself.  He promised that one day he would reunite every family.

This is truth. This truth comforts me.

I am sorry if I was rambling. I certainly don't want to cause you trouble or anguish either. You have enough of that. But I truly from the heart hope that I have given you something to think about, that can comfort. If there is anything I can do to help, PLEASE let me know.

Dennis

Comment by Davita Coley on May 24, 2012 at 11:11pm

I APPOLOGIZE EVERY 1. MY DAUGHTER WAS STAYING THE NIGHT AT HER BESTFRIENDS HOUSE WHEN THIS HAPPENED...JUST WANTED TO CLARIFY THAT...SORRY:-)

Comment by renee collier on May 24, 2012 at 11:06pm

Hi Davita, am so sorry for the loss of your beautiful daughter.  You are right God has a plan for all of us.  But it is so difficult to why he takes  the ones we love and when they are so young. I pray for your healing during this Very difficult time  and difficult is an understatement.

I can relate to your feelings.  I am mourning my Fiance, I found him dead. He died at 43.  I still don't know the cause of his death.

I understand the pain your heart feels and the emptiness.  That is good you guys are reaching out and getting support form grief counseling. I too am in group and one on one counseling.  I go because I don't know what else to do.

I will keep your in my thoughts and prayers. Its really hard to tell people how to grieve because everyone grieves differently. Just take it day by day and minute by min. 

take care and I am glad you are on this site.