My husband died May 14, 2008. My son-in-law announced to my daughter October 5 that their marriage was over and moved out of the house November 7. I started seeing a counselor after my daughter got divorced (it was final March 2009). I felt I needed to know how best to help her and her children cope. The counselor pointed out that I was depressed and that I hadn't yet grieved the passing of my husband. I didn't want to believe him, but he assured me that I was in denial. Go figure.
I didn't really have time to grieve Ed's death. My sob of a former son-in-law chose to act out shortly after Ed died and then left the family less than 6 months after Ed's death. I was much too busy supporting my daughter and her children through this trial to think of grieving my own loss. Now it seems I cannot put it off any longer.
I finally have the luxury to shed tears without worrying how it will affect someone else if they see me cry. I miss my honey so much!! He had an alarm set on his wrist watch that still goes off every day. I tell my grandkids that's grandpa talking to me. I didn't know I had postponed grieving. It increases my anger at the ex-sil. He took so much away from the family without any thought as to how his leaving would effect his wife, his children, or me. He's so selfish!! I've got to work on the anger, too.
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