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Comment by Nicole on December 8, 2011 at 3:24am

Eliza, reading this I could identify with everything you say.  I am 26 and lost both my parents in the last year.  Dad died in December 2010 and my Mom in September 2011.  I too have a younger sister, also 2 years younger than I am.  I am not married and have no children.  I also struggle with taking people's advice, so many people giving their opinions, but all I wish is to speak to my parents.  My mom and I were very close, I feel an emptiness and pain inside me I cannot explain to anyone, nobody understands how I feel.  It hurts so much knowing I will never see her or my dad again.  My mom was also a very tough strong person.  She endured so much, she beat ovarian cancer 12 years ago, and she was a diabetic too.  She had a stroke last year August and after my dad's unexpected death in December she just went backwards, I had to watch as her health deteriorated.  She died of a heart attack.  My dad was also such a strong healthy person and he died from an operation that went wrong, but the autopsy results showed he had pancreas cancer and it was so severe he wouldn't have lived long in any case.  It is still so unreal that they are gone.  If you ever want to talk I am here for you...

Comment by Pauline Ngwe on November 21, 2011 at 2:34pm

Elaine, i hope that you don't take this the wrong way but this is out of my personal experience. I am 39yrs old grew up

without knowing what it means to say i love you to a child bc i never hard the chance. So my dear, when you get up in the morning just say lord i thank you for another day and please give me the opportunity to be a good parent to my own kids just like my beloved parents. Tell God to give you peace and the grace to be what he want you to be so that one day you will have the chance to see your parents again. God bless you and your sister and may you have a wonderful thanks giving in Jesus name. AMEN.