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Comment by Linda m on June 23, 2016 at 9:49am

Hello, Alin. Thank you for your thoughtful words. I really appreciate you taking time to respond to my message. I am so glad that this website has been so helpful to you, and that your being able to express your feelings here has helped to ease the pain in you heart to some degree.

I believe that being able to talk about the loss of a loved one is so important in the healing process. It is something that I did not do for a very long time. I have a very loving and understanding husband and children, but I kept everything bottled up inside. Just last week I was with my sisters and mother and we had a long talk about my dad - not just about what he was like and the fun times we had with him, but we spoke about the day he died and the impact that had on us. That talk helped me so much and I feel that now I can focus more clearly on the hope I have of seeing my dad again when he is resurrected to life, and on the Bible's promise that in due time God will "wipe out every tear from our eyes and death will be no more, neither will mourning nor outcry nor pain be anymore".

I hope that you continue to get the encouragement you need at this time in your life and that little by little the pain in your heart is replaced at least to some degree by happy memories that bring you joy.     Sincerely, Linda

Comment by Alin Tooby on May 31, 2016 at 1:20pm

Hi Linda,

 

Thank you for your kind words. I am sorry for the loss of your father.  I am happy to hear that you have been able to find a bit of comfort after all these years. I hope in time I will find some myself. Thank you for referring me to the brochure you read and found help in.  I have only briefly looked at similar brochures or booklets. I feel that coming on here and venting does seem to help ease my heart pains a bit. I do feel bad sometimes for having only sad thoughts to share but hey, it is what it is.   I have been focusing on trying to release and vent out some of the pain so it does not consume me. Perhaps its time I start taking in some knowledge as I release the negativity. 

 

Thanks again for your kind words and advice.

 

I hope you have a blessed day.

 

Sincerely,

 

Alin 

Comment by Linda m on May 19, 2016 at 11:45am

Alin, I have been so moved by your posts. My heart goes out to you with deepest sympathy for the loss of your parents. I remember how devastated I was when my Father passed away after having suffered with cancer. My grief was so deep that I could not be comforted. It has been a number of years since he died and I still feel an emptiness in my heart when I think of him. So I do understand to some small degree the pain you are feeling. It's a pain that never goes away entirely, but I found that it can be eased somewhat by hope. That is what happened to me when I read a brochure entitled "When Someone You Love Dies". It helped me to understand the stages of grief - that I was not crazy, but that everything I was feeling was normal. It also comforted me in the knowledge that my Dad is "sleeping" and that God has promised to awaken him one day to reunite him with us.
I re-read this brochure from time to time because there is so much comfort in it's contents. Perhaps you may find some comfort in it as well. I was able to find it on JW.org.
I am sending you my deepest condolences and will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.