Yesterday was hard. I get blindsided every now and then with the grief. I miss my husband so much. I feel like he was taken away too soon. My daughter told me that God took him at the right time. Everything happens according to God's plan. I know that but it doesn't make me feel any better. I was counting on us growing old together. The holidays are going to be harder this year than last year. Last year I was still in a fog, just going through the motions. This year everything is clear and the loss hurts just as bad. New Years Day will never be the same as that is the day that God took him. I know people make it through all of this but it sure is hard. On the days like yesterday I just want to run away and not think about anything or deal with my responsibilities. I just want to wallow and cry. I wonder how long it will take to get through this. One of my friends who also lost her husband said that the counselor told her is is normal for it to take 3-5 years to get through it all. I feel like I just can't take it for that long. But I have to be here for my kids who are still in college. There aren't enough words to make this feel better. As you can tell my thoughts are just jumbled. This is the hardest thing I have ever had to do. 

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Comment by Annette Dominguez on October 3, 2012 at 8:18am

Hi Laura. It was a freak accident. He was in the garage cleaning his hand gun and I think he put it back together and somehow the table tipped and the gun went off and shot him in the chest. The bullet caused so much internal damage that the doctor couldn't save him. He was alive when they put him in the ambulance so I was expecting him to be alive when I got to the hospital. That was the worst day of my life. I still cry every time I think about it. I still cry when I look at pictures of him. Everyone tells me to think of the happy times but that makes me cry too because there won't be any more happy times with him. I keep putting one foot in front of the other. I did go to Griefshare and that helped me a lot because there were others who had lost loved ones. They did tell me it gets better, not easier, but better. I too feel alone quite a bit. I pray a lot and that comforts me most of the time. But there are other times when I just have to cry and cry and cry. I know I shed an ocean of tears that first year. I have talked your ear off so will sign off. Hugs to you too.

Comment by Laura on October 2, 2012 at 9:26pm
I don't like New Years either. We have something in common. It was the last day I saw my Mom alive. What did your husband pass away from? I do know your pain. People always say it will get easier in time, but those are the people that really haven't gone thru what we have. I never imagined how painful this could be. I have to pull it together also because I have 3 boys. 16,3 & 2. I feel alone, because no one understands. Sorry for your pain. Hugs to you

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