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Comment by Amanda Ab on January 24, 2012 at 4:36pm

Terrie,

I so much understand your process. And know that most of the information you know must be kept for "your ears only."  I have been told the same regarding Danny's case. I will soon email you and hope to hear back from you.

Keep in Touch,

Amanda

Comment by Terrie B on January 20, 2012 at 10:03pm

Amanda
I believe that the police knew this would be a hard case to solve.
I think they hope someone will eventually talk with real details.
Candance lived in TX we live in VA.
We waited to do this interview, police had several persons of interest and lots of leads. None panned out. So now we decide to do an interview.
There is alot about Candances murder I know but cannot discuss.
Which makes it more painful to deal with as the days and weeks go by.
I know you and your family are in the same state of Limbo we are in. For us it seems as if everything has frozen.....can't go forward.....always asking the same questions over and over again.....why and how could someone murder.....and not have a conceance.....how can another human being be so evil?
I am hopeing the reporter will do a followup series just to keep her name out in the community. We talk to Candance and pray to have justice for Candance.
Hugs to you Amanda....I will keep you posted.
My email is : justice4candy@yahoo.com

Comment by Amanda Ab on January 20, 2012 at 7:21pm

Terry,

is there a major issue or in order to protect the investigation, that police cant reveal the real truth?? I would think that by revealing some of it might result in some leads? will your interview be aired on tv? have you suggested segment called crime stoppers?

when Danny was murdered we did go forward with the media, with detectives consent of course, and it brought us many leads. it was hard for us as a family to give interviews but i just had to do it and not give up. I had in my mind that it will hopefully be worth it and bring justice. people eventually called in for leads.

keep me posted, please,

Amanda

Comment by Terrie B on January 20, 2012 at 1:24pm

I agree
I will never give up.......I can't .....
I had a 2 hour interview with a reporter last night.
Most of what I told him had to be off the record. I asked if he knew anyone else in our situation where our daughter has been murdered and we have to lie to everyone...it's so stressful...dealing with her murder and not being able to talk about it.
I emailed the detective asking for the invoice....
I emailed him 2 days ago......I have not received a response.
At what point do we tell the police we have had enough and need to tell the truth to the public. And at what point do we demand another agency step in??
She has been dead 6 months and they don't have any suspects or leads.
I even asked if the police would use an FBI profiler.....
They said no they will not unless her death were related to another homicide.
Many friends tell us to hire a psychic.....
I have so much to think about .... So much to try and deal with.

Comment by Amanda Ab on January 20, 2012 at 11:31am

Terry, like you said you should keep pushing on!! And Ruth, what you commented is absoulutely all right. We all must not give up. And sooner or later someone will step in to guide you and give you all of the answers you need. I too watch many of the 20/20, First 48 hours shows. I watched this show on 20/20 about this mother who was told that her 8 yr old boy drowned accidently. She right away suspected differently. Autopsy revealed drowning, so his death certificate reflected the autopsy. She had a mother instinct that her little boy was actually murdered first. She kept fighting for answers and for a more in dept investigation. She will call every week to the police dept. the officers there even already knew her. About 2-3 years had gone by with no answers. She then was about to just give up hope because all of that was taking over her life and her family, but one day she had this dream with her little boy, who told her to help him! and she got up and kept fighting. Well it turned out that her little boy had been given alcohol and drugs and he died of that and then disposed of his body at the near by lake. The little boy's step-mom was the one held responsible.

Like I have said before, it is just so damn frustrating all of this. All we want is Justice is that too much to ask for? after all we have lost?

Comment by Terrie B on January 15, 2012 at 2:28pm

I will never listen to my "friends" who tell me there is nothing I can do. 

There is something I can do.........to be a constant reminder to the police to keep pushing, never give up.

I thank you all for your encouragement.........

I constantly watch programs, The First 48 hours, 20/20, etc. trying to see if anyone had an experiance as mine.

I watched one last night about a young girl, who police said died of an accidential fall, but the mother refused to believe, and fought with the police she pushed and found evidence (once the autopsy was given to her)  that her daughter was murdered, because of all the defensive wounds.  For years she fought the police and honestly believed that they were not working to solve her daughters murder.  I so related to the mother, and felt I was in the same nightmare.

Although Candance's death was never deemed accidential, the police continue to tell the public she was shot.

I knew from the first day the truth, the police had told me, and I promised not to tell anyone how Candance died..........the police would not send me the autopsy report..........so I ordered it myself............I had a friend who is a detective here look at it first and tell me everything I wanted to know.  The main thing is that she fought for her life.

I think that is the hardest part.........

Kandi, I thought of you and your family when I finally looked at the autopsy myself weeks later.  There was more than what the police had shared with me.  I braced myself, read it quickly one day then several days later sat down and re-read it over and over and cried for hours.

My mind is all over the place.................one month after Candance was murdered, another young girl was murdered.........the paper also said she was shot.  She was not from that town, her family lived in FL.  I cant help but wonder was she really shot?  I tried contacting the family, but have not received a response back.

There are alot of puzzeling things with Candance's murder.

I am writing the paper to see if they will run a story about Candance..........

I was never given anything from the police regarding Candance's murder, no list of items that the police had taken from her home.  I will ask for the list.

There is a Liason who is with the police dept., but she never can answer any questions, always says she does not know anything about the investigation........she is very nice, but after hearing the same responses every time I call her it is pointless.........so I call the detective in charge, its okay that he avoids my calls and does not return them (I would probably avoid me too).. Just so he knows that I am NOT going away until he solves her murder is all I want him to know. 

We still also have an open investigation with the Coroner's office for the jewlery that was stolen off of her while she was in Dallas during her autopsy.  Too much evil in the world......sad that you can still be vicimized even after you die!

Thank you!

I will keep pushing on!!!

 

 

 

 

Comment by Ruth on January 14, 2012 at 6:39pm

Dear Terrie,

I am finally able to write to you today though I read your comment earlier in the week.  We here in our family have been praying for your and our "other" families to get better answers.  Terrie it hurts my heart to hear people say to you what others have said to us along the last 3 1/2 years before the murderer was charged.  I won't put on shouting caps but Never, Never,Never,Never Give Up.  Let the officials know you wil Never, Never, Never, Never go away.  That you will only talk to more and more people.  That you will ask others to talk and ask more and more.  That is how we pour our love out for our loved one.  Those that ask you to ignore one family member in favor of the living ones are not doing the living ones any favor.  Jesus reminded us that a good shepard goes out to look for the one missing lamb, even leaving the herd with the dog.  Those comforters that counsel us to move on, "it's hopeless", are like Job's comforters. Job didn't listen to them and neither should we.  We phoned every six weeks or so, we would comment in editorials and online about other cases that might remotely tie into ours either with the crime involved or municipality, players, whatever to keep it to the fore.  PRAY.  I would pray to be shown and guided in what to say to people in my day.  I internetted things that MIGHT be related then went from there.  I was truly guided in Spirit to get help from some very unlikely people and yesterday I sat hearing the defense strategy motions to try to get the killer out from the ironclad web he has woven around himself.  The judge ruled one thing his way, that State can't bring up a crime that happened in 1996, but that all the 15 or so other crimes he's committed have a direct bearing on our case. 

I will pray specifically about the police department involved and their attitude to you.  I like your letter writing campaign idea.  Why not start with the letter, pray over it as you write it and after it is written, before it is sent.  Answers might come to you in Spirit that way.  I re-wrote official letters after Divine Guidance that made it a better letter that also made what we hope were better results. Also, as an heir, you are entitled to an exact list of what was removed from Candance's apartment.  Then you can track what has happened to each piece.  Has anyone assigned you or introduced you to a victim's advocate yet? you are entitled to one from either your local jurisdiction or the agency in charge of the investigation.  Also reassure the police that you want to protect the case, that you want to know as much as humanly possible but if they withheld certain aspects to protect the case, you understand it's in everybody's (but the killer(s) best interest.  We made sure to say it out loud even though it would be a good assumption.  Some people, even those in family (our case, MIL) use things like this as currency for attention, so let cops know that you would not let that happen to anything they divulged to you.

Also, the gap between when the investigation was started and when the criminal is charged might help the case.  Naturally we don't want those monsters out there, hurting others, so that part sucks.  But in our case the DNA science changed between when everything was starting to be processed and now.  And it has made our case stronger in 2 ways.  If they had put the rush on the tests under old protocols, we might not have been able to charge under old standards.  And because both test protocols and interpretation protocols have changed now, those iron doors are going to CLANG shut forever, once a jury gets it.  It was agony and hell waiting, feeling no one at a decision level for the state/county cared, but we prayed and let the "underlings" know we appreciated them and what they were up against with "budgets" and lab limits etc.  Never doubt the Lord in carrying on our battle for us, even when we feel too broken down to do it.  I w

Comment by Kandi Broussard on January 13, 2012 at 4:51pm

Dear Terrie,  I am horrified to learn that you still have no answers.  Call them everyday, go to the police dept, write to everyone you can think of, do not listen to people that say to give up.  Please don't.  You may not get answers immediately but you will never forgive yourself if you give up.  I know that it feels like a brick wall but you have to stay on them.  You NEED answers.  I just cannot believe that it is taking so long.  What city was your daughter murdered in?  When you get so overwhelmed and feel like you just can't do it for one more day, remember your beautiful daughter and keep fighting!!  Is there anything that I can do to help?

Comment by Amanda Ab on January 13, 2012 at 12:13pm

Terrie, people can't seem to understand how we feel since they are not in your shoes as a mother loosing a daughter in such a horrific way, neither cant they understand when all of the anger we feel is directed against another human being who was the cause of their death. Its at times too much to handle.

I believe in NOT GIVING UP at all. Keep fighting. I myself continue to check in periodically for an update on Danny's murder investigation and make sure they keep doing whatever is it that they are doing.  You are in my prayers that  you soon receive answers and someone steps up and helps you. I really pray for that for your own sanity and closure. Many people too tell me that I need to let it go that Justice will come eventually from up above to them, but I say no!!! I want Justice here in this earth, I want it so desperately. Someone so evil cannot continue walking the streets and enjoying freedom, life, family.

I pray everynight for closure soon and for evil not to triumph and all of those murderers who are out free, be caught and bring to justice and pay for all that they have caused. We want no more victims.

Please keep in touch with me,

Big Hug

Amanda

Comment by Terrie B on January 12, 2012 at 8:41pm

Thank you all for your input.

I get so depressed hearing people tell me to give up...............her murderer will never be caught.

She would want you to enjoy your life, live for your other daughters and grandchildren............focus on them,

that is what Candance would have wanted...........REALLY?  No that is not what she would want........if I were murdered I know she would NEVER give up, she would never back off she would never stop.

My question to them.................If this were your child what would you do?  Would you give up, just quit?           

Would you do nothing?  Would you just let it go?  They can't answer that question..

I can't stop I can't do that I can't sit back and do nothing, I will never quit until the monster is caught.

True reality is I know once he is caught, my greif will never end.  I will have a person to focus my anger on, but my life has been forever changed.  There will never be closure....

 

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