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Comment by Ashley Thompson-Judd on May 27, 2012 at 12:16pm

Thank you. Reading your message I know you understand the heart ache. I do not know the heart ache of losing someone you have loved for so many years and been through so much together, but know I am sending warm hugs and thoughtful prayers your way.

Comment by Lynne M. on May 26, 2012 at 11:50am

Ashley, I ran across this post and felt compelled to respond.  First, of course, I am so terribly sorry for your loss.  I am currently grieving the loss of my husband of almost 41 years - he died not quite two months ago.  Your post, however, reminds me of another loss, man years ago.  My husband and I lost our first daughter, back in 1972.  Her name was Heather Brooke and she was born full term and seemingly healthy.  She weighed over 8 pounds and checked out just fine at birth, although my labor had been somewhat complicated.  We celebrated her birth, held her, shared that precious time as a family - me, my husband and our beautiful new daughter.  I went to sleep that night feeling so incredibly happy and blessed.  Then I was awakened early the following morning and told that there "were problems"...that a nurse had found Heather not breathing and they'd resuscitated her and she was now in a special incubator.  My husband had been called back to the hospital and was on his way.  Our joy from the day before quickly turned to fear and we spent the day in and out of the nursery, watching things seem to go from bad to worse...she developed all kinds of complications and eventually died at 11:00 that night.  We were absolutely devastated and in a state of shock and disbelief.  The hospital coded it out as "newborn death" but we were never given any real explanation that made any sense to us - and certainly nothing that made our grief any less intense.  My heart goes out to you because I WELL know the feelings and here, almost 40 years later, I can still feel it when remembering those days.  The best and worst days of my life occurred one after the other and no one, absolutely no one, seemed to be able to identify with what I was going through.  And now, I'm grieving again...over the sudden loss of my husband, Heather's father.  Your post touched my heart greatly.  Also, we were living overseas at the time and had no family there with us, no one but each other to turn to for comfort.  Yes, you will always, but always, love your twins - just as I have loved and missed Heather for all these years - and I always will.  Even though I was SO afraid to have another baby, fearing that the same thing would happen, we did go ahead and have another child, two years later...and that child has grown up to be my best friend...my daughter, Courtnay.  She's also given us our grandson, Cooper.  Anyway, I just wanted to share this with you, as your post resonated so greatly with me.  I wish you all the best and, most especially, some peace and the grace to deal with this huge and tragic loss.  Better days will come.  I send you a big hug of understanding.  Lynne

Comment by Ashley Thompson-Judd on May 24, 2012 at 10:05pm

Thank you.

Comment by anna l. on May 24, 2012 at 1:47pm

I am soo sorry for your loss.  There are no words I can offer to give you comfort but you have found a place where many of us have lost a child and can at least offer understanding.  Thank heavens for the huggers in this world.  I dont think we could make it without them.  Here is one from me too.  (((((((((  )))))))))))))))

 

Comment by Grace on May 24, 2012 at 9:22am

SOOO Sorry for your pain....  ((((((HUGS))))