I guess there isn't much to say anymore. I miss him so much. He was like my brother and it feels weird and wrong and different. It's weird to think a year ago we were laughing and were so close. Its weird to think that someone who was once so beautiful and full of life is now rotting six feet underground in a wooden box. I'm not sure of my religious beliefs but I think I hope he's either moved onto the next life or has his own personal heaven with everyone he loved. I hope he has his…

Hi beautiful people,



I lost my father last year, a few months before starting my Masters in Innovation & Future Technologies.

I have used his loss as a source of inspiration for my project, and will really appreciate your participation.



Below is a link to my survey (which, is not very long):

https://goo.gl/forms/Qw74fKCXAKHtwXXk2



All information will remain confidential and will only be used for…

It has been 8 months since I have talked to my person. I have 1 year and 5 months to go until I can talk to her again. I miss her everyday. I am terrified that she will forget me until then. I do not know what to do if she forgets me. I talked to her everyday for over a year, she was there and she saved my life. I miss her so much.

Visions, Trips, and Crowded Rooms: Who and What You See Before You Die

  David Kessler, expert on death and grief, takes on three uniquely shared experiences that challenge our ability to explain and fully understand the mystery of our final days. The first is “visions".  As the dying lose sight of this world, some people appear to be looking into the world to come.…

Found this article today and decided to save it here:

From Hay House by Christina Rasmussen

Imagine living a beautiful life with your husband and two baby daughters. You have just moved to a new state and city, loving every moment of it. I was 30 years old and he was 31. Change happened fast, as if in a scary movie. The ground we walked on shifted and we had to learn to fly…

• Reduced concentration
• A sense of numbness
• Disrupted sleeping patterns
• Changed eating habits
• Emotional Roller coaster

Developing a healthy self-care practice is an essential part of active grieving. Self-care in all its forms - physical, spiritual, intellectual and psychological - is at the very heart of purposeful grieving. As you're committed to growing through this experience of loss - of becoming more than you were before the passing of your loved one, not less - I offer you these self-care tips and ideas:

• Surround yourself with things that help you feel…

When we grieve we sometimes lose our focus.

You can choose what you want to focus on.  Choose!  Choose what you CAN do. Honor and care for each other… Smile… Say thank you… Let the person ahead of you in line… Hold the door for someone… Help the elderly with a task… Give a compliment… Be courteous and polite… Say hello… Offer help to others… Be a good listener… Start a conversation with someone… Give someone…

No one is prepared for grief. The rush of feelings, the thoughts, anxieties, and heartache can take us by surprise and drive us to our knees. Yet, when we choose to harness that power for self-growth, amazing things can happen. Good can come from pain.

Learn to tell your story differently. Take the victim mentality out of the story of loss you tell yourself and others and replace it with the word survivor to return to a sense of control over your…

It’s up to you to choose if that hole will be filled with pain, anger, and the eternal darkness of loss . . .
Or if you will choose to fill it with light and love and have that hole shine out of you like a spotlight into your life, keeping their memory alive . . .

If you've lost your appetite, try simple comfort foods, such as soups, mashed potatoes with chicken or meatloaf, fruit and yogurt smoothies, puddings, pasta, or foods from your childhood or cultural background. Eating small portions frequently may help as well. Take a multivitamin to cover any nutrients your meals are not currently supplying.  Wishing all of you a blessed day.

Grief:  Nobody on this earth would blame you if you became depressed and didn't want to carry on, but sometimes the mind can work powerful miracles. Even in the worst times there is hope and you should never give in to the dark storms that are approaching.  Hold on to the LOVE!

Abandonment has its own kind of grief – a powerful grief universal to human beings. The grief can be acute – as when we go through the ending or death of a relationship, or chronic – as when we feel the impact of earlier losses and disconnection.

The pain of grief is awful.  We may understand that the body needs to process grief to help us move on, but the question exists...Can we speed it up a little so it doesn't hurt so much?



The answer is Yes and No.  The pain of grief must be felt an experienced to be free from it.  The truth is, the faster you fully experience it, the quicker you'll have more 'non-grieving' periods that you can live your life.  So,…

It is like a dream… I’m dreaming since 2012. Do you remember that had to be the end of the world? And it was… was for me… I want to come back. But what is real if you live in your minds?

TIPS:

     1) Right away find a place and scream as loud as you want and as long as you want!

     2) Go to travel (at least for few days and you can do it alone!)

     3)…

I am conducting a research study on the way Americans think and talk about loss and grief. This is a part of my PhD project.

You are eligible to participate if:

- you were born and raised in the United States

- you are a native speaker of American English

- you are an adult (19-60 years old)

- you have experienced the death of a loved person within the last 1-5 years.

If you are eligible and willing to participate, please go to the…

Yesterday I said I was not going to dwell on the loss of my wife Cheryl, today I am, at least in this blog post.

It's another morning and I have been lying in bed for a few hours hoping to fall back asleep.  But I have had no luck.  My mind of course has been thinking of Cheryl.  Of the more than 31 years we knew each other, and how we had so many experiences together that we could always share a private laugh.  And now those memories are only mine.  They feel like such a…

http://www.orlandosentinel.com/os-lk-grief-counselor-diana-young-20150131-story.html

There are nights that I dream about the funeral, about how bitter cold and wet it was, from the rain. I replay it all over again, about how unwilling I was to leave. About how unable I was to accept that he was already gone, and just his body remained. But I refused, absolutely refused, to think of him in the ground. As cold as it was, I just couldn't imagine him there. 

There are days that I wake up from those dreams, and I just cry. I never knew I was capable of so many…