mary frances gibbons
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I live with my husband, dog and two kitties in a nice home. I work at UNCW. My husband is currently laid off from his electrical job but we are making it ok. He is my best friend. I don't have any children but have had 4 miscarrages through the years but its ok becuz i have come to terms with that. Until recently I was the happiest i had ever been.I have felt like i had finally become the woman i was meant to be.
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My sister,Lynette is 49 yrs old. She has been anorexic and bulemic since she was 16. she is also married and for obvious reasons is also childless. But she has always been one of the kindest most beautiful person i know. Although she lives in connicut we have always been close. She has always refused any kind of in house therapy but has been under dr. supervision for years. It just seems that she kept herself just at that line. In Jan she entered the hosp at 73 lbs with kidney stones. Several months later she cont to fight for her life.The complications are many: a acute lung disease,punctured and colapsed lung ,several surgeries later she devoloped blood clots in both legs and is now without legs from above her knees.Everyday she fights infections,pain ,blood transfusions,always something. Thay don't believe she has a chance at rehab and are talking hospice. I have not yet mentioned our mother. The day my sister lost her legs , this women who has lived 74 yrs for her 5 children, and who was all of our best friend, that day,my mom changed somehow, her heart just seemed to die a little. Because we all live far apart when Lynette got sick we all took turns going and spending time with her in the hosp to try to support her and her wonderful,strong husband. the first couple trips my mom made to conn. things were very bad and my sister has no memory of them. But becuz my father is also very ill my mother could only go back and forth. I had mtmy turn about a month ago and i left here to help her and I came back A better person and so proud of her courage and concern for everyone else. A tribute tomy mother for sure! The week prior to st., patricks day mom had the flu, she assumed this becuase she at 74 still was raising my other sisters children while my little sis and her hus. worked. She delayed her flight a time or two and worried Dad didn't feel well either. But so eager to see Lynette now that she wasn't so heavily medicated she went anyway. They had three wonderful days,holding hands and talking and im sure laughing and maybe even crying together. I don't know exactly but i think it was a very special time for them both. The next day the 17t16th she was too sick to go to the hosp. Even after warnings from all of us that she must be dehydrated she just would not be concerned for herself. That was my mom. She She died the next day, they say from septic shock,hours after my brother-in-law found her on the froor in the house. She died alone in the same hosp as my sister was in. my sister had just been brought down to intermediate care the day before and commented that she heard the helicopter which had life flighted my m0ther to the icu unit she was on the day before. So, i cry,for my mom, who didn't ever want to bury her child. And for my dad who is so lost without his bestfriend of 55 years and for the fear in his eyes while he wonders how long he will have to be without her. Ane i cry for her grandchild she loved so much andfor her great grand child who will never know this women. But mostly i cry for that little girl up in conn. who i call 3 times a day so she can comfort me. She has no legs and so much pain, she has infections and besores but God does she have heart and its only becuz of her that i can get through each hour of the day. Ane i know my mom lives through her. but i live with this cont nightmare that this story will have no happy endind. and that my daddy and my beautiful sister will leave me too. And that i can't take.

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