Hi Stephen,

I feel for and with you now.  My brother died this past March, and it was not a surprise either.  It perhaps lessens the traumatic shock aspect of sudden deaths, but all the sadness, heaviness, lack of energy for life, are the same, I think.

I hope you can find a way to make it through these next days, weeks, months, etc.  I'm one that believes that "time" itself, doesn't do the trick.  I think some ritualized grieving practices helps, whatever they may be for you.  My brother's ashes are in another country, and I have no cemetery to visit, but I do other things - listen to music, look at his pictures, just take out some time to be with him again.  This helps me.

All the best to you at this sad time of your life.

Susan