Shirley, it sounds like my husband died a similar death to yours. Only difference being he died like 8 months after diagnosis. I remember him struggling to breathe...having the oxygen set at max and still not enough. I did take FMLA to take care of him because by the time he was diagnosed he had bone mets all over and they immediately started chemo and radiation...he was barely able to move, much less drive the 25 miles each way daily. I was a nurse and tried everything I could think of to make things work...I don't understand how his diagnosis was missed for so long! When we talked about the inevitable(death) I begged him to take me with, but he told me that I had to stay and spoil the grandchild/ren he would never see...His last full meal with us as a family was to celebrate our 27th anniversary...he was gone 2 weeks later. I think we'll always live with the "what ifs"....