Dear Ken, My heart goes out to you more than I can express. It is very hard on a marriage, for many reasons, men want to fix women want to express. Don't take anything personal, between you both, this is alot of feelings and emotions of change to deal with. For me what helped was looking for how to discover my son now, instead of looking at loss. I have a new relationship with him now, invisible but real. I found this to be very healthy for me and my family. I offer free tel classes on how to have an invisible relationship, my website is americasgriefcoach.com
During the first year Grandmother told me many times "When are you going to stop beating yourself over the head with that two by for?" I pass this on to you. I hope that you will be able to trust the process, and trust that she is still very much alive, just in a different place, and if you pay attention she will give you signs. Yesterday was my sons birthday he would have been 25, This is number 3 without him being there in the physical form. We went fishing at his favorite lake named after him. The fish were jumping, the sky was amazing, and when I got home and I sang him a song, the windchimes started playing a song back to me. My son has taught me to stop and listen, to stop and hear. My connection with God is deeper, my faith increased. May this happen for you and your family too. Tears are a blessing, they are your love pouring out of you. I call them silver light. You have to feel in order to heal. If you need to hear a voice of support, or your wife, you may call me, 541-821-6213, With a million hugs, Coach Louise