Sharon Robertson

Female

Brisbane Queensland

Australia

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About Me:
I am a mother of five children...one now longer with us aged 17 yrs
a carer for my eldest son with a brain injury from the same accident.
and raising two younger children 9 and 11 alone as am no longer with my husband of 28yrs as he has a brain injury (he was the driver) and no longer wants me
About my Loss:
On the 10th March 2008 my second eldest son ran over our youngest daughter (18month old ) I was in hospital with her for three days Back home on the Wednesday. On Saturday my husband decided to take our japanese student to a bird park/rain forrest with the rest of the family, I had told him he was too tired from all that had happened that week....... at 2:30pm he fell asleep at the wheel, hit a tree and killed our 17yr old daughter instantly.
I was then told by police that I had my son and second youngest daughter at one hospital, our japanese student in another hospital, and my husband had been air lifted to yet another hospital, and wasn't expected to live and no one could tell me where Shalisha's body had been taken too I didn't get to see her till 3 days later.
Both my husbands family and mine lived in NZ so was very alone.
I have lost a marriage of 28yrs, a beautiful daughter aged 17 yrs, a husband, a son with a brain (frontal lobe) injury and my second eldest son hasn't coped with losing his best friend/sister and then his parents breaking up
so doesn't really want anything to do with me at the moment (7 years) so really I have lost him too, not to mention leaving a very large beautiful 7 bedroom home, and am trying to manage on a carers pension.
after the accident happened I noticed it took me a year to be able to write my signature and had to get an automatic car as I could not even remember how to change gears.
My Husband was in hospital then the brain injury rehab for months.
I was alone at the funeral even though my husband was allowed to go by ambulance for a short time to the funeral.
My heart just broke into a million pieces when the funeral car drove away with her body from the funeral. I think I died emotionally that day.
My emotions have died .... locked away till they feel safe too come out again.
This is just a very short version of my journey.
Does anyone know where I can get a free online journal for grief... I would like to be able to write the full story. and the continual on going story of this journey I am now walking.

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  • Dolly

    I can't believe how much you have had to suffer... I'm so sorry...

    Jun 28, 2015

  • MarieSte

    Hi Sharon, I left a comment for you under the Stay With Me poem yesterday-I'm not sure if you saw it. I hope things are a little easier for you today. sending you gentle thoughts a hug and a virtual frape <3

    Jun 28, 2015

  • Toni Jones

    Sharon, I am so deeply sorry for all you've been through. I have just started participating more on this site. I read what happened to you and your family. I was wondering how your husband is doing and, if you don't mind, could you tell me how you handled your daughters birthday. My son Jameys first birthday since I had to lay him in his permanent bed in September 24th and I just do not know how I am going to get through that day. He was such a sick little guy after he was born. He was born 2 months early. His lung burst, he had jaundice, under-weight and was just barely hanging on. At age 4 he was put in ICU because he had a blood poisoning that the doctors were never able to find the cause. But he pulled through that. Then at age 7 his appendix burst. As he got older, he had several accidents in which he broke bones. And then...the wreck. He hung on for a day and a half. November 20, 2014. Before Thanksgiving. What struck me so hard was a remark by one of his aunts. She said to me that she had prayed he would pull through so that everyone would have a good holiday. ???? Well I am soo sorry that my childs passing ruined your dinner. How do you deal with those kind of thoughtless remarks.

    I hope that you are doing as well as you can in this hell we both, and so many others, share. How are your other kids? I wish you peace.

    Sep 10, 2015