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Comment by Mary on July 29, 2016 at 2:24am

Tenelle I am sorry for your loss. The loss of your soul mate is very devestating and hard to understand. I find it is comforting to read other people's thoughts on here because everyone understands how it feels. Most have the same struggles, same emotions and physical pains.
I lost my beautiful husband 3 months ago and my life feels so different. The air, the streets, life is so different. Neil was only 52 and we had more living to do. I yearn for him each day. We loved each other so much and he was the joy of my life. My life feels so empty. All i can say is one day at a time. Take care

Comment by Tenelle Lewis on July 28, 2016 at 4:30pm

I lost my fiancé July 8. He was in a car accident coming home from working out of town. We had been together a year and a half and we had the type of relationship where we knew from day 1 we were soul mates and were suppose to find each other. Im 46 and have raised 3 kids on my own, never married, dated some but nothing serious. He was the one. I knew it. I FELT it. Now he is gone. I was out of town visiting family when the call came that I had lost him. Coming home from that trip to find everything the way we left it devastated me. His bath wash still in the shower, his robe still handing on its hook, his pillow still on the bed. I cry constantly and cant sleep and just mourn for him. It doesn't seem like its real. I picked his ashes up yesterday hoping that would help but it seemed like it was a longer night than usual. Ive read so many comments on here and I know this has happen to so many of us. Im sorry for each and everyone one of you because I know how you hurt. I don't know what I will get out of joining if anything. Perhaps just a place where people understand.

Comment by Tenelle Lewis on July 28, 2016 at 4:30pm

Comment by stewart p on July 28, 2016 at 2:27pm

3 weeks and to get over it?  LOL 3 years and Im not over it, I just dont tell others who havent been there themselves what I thinking or feeling.  Thats what places like this and your nearby bereavement group meetings are for.  Bad enough we have to deal with all of this in the first place much less begin having to explain or defend ourselves.  No way, not happening.  If nothing else I give people a gentle nudge to let them know when one day they find themselves losing their spouse then they too will know what is real and they can count on me to there to lend an ear.  Maybe they are just afraid of their own mortality and its easier not to think about it where as for those of us here never has it been made clear than with the daily longing for our partner.

Comment by Oleta Cato on July 28, 2016 at 12:47pm

Kathryn.  I used to cry ALL day.  Now I cry several times a day so my grief  is in better control.  Sometimes for no reason I will burst into sobs and I have to sit down, in HIS chair and pull myself together.  I keep asking him why he left me.  I keep hearing his voice whispering in my ear.  I think he knew, he kept saying that last day, "are you still my girl"  over and over. I know I am better and not going insane.  You will get better but it is so gradual.  After three weeks my daughter told me to "get over it."  When I think how much she loved her dad.  I don't understand.  No one knows until they are there.

Comment by Kathryn HUDSON on July 28, 2016 at 10:18am

Thank you Oleta, I too feel like I'm doing ok at times, but you do ever have a panicky feeling starting sometimes?  Usually when that starts I'll have a big crying spell the next day or so.  

Comment by Oleta Cato on July 28, 2016 at 9:26am

Kathryn,  My husband died from a cardiac arrest.  Like your husband, he never regained consciousness.  He died in the emergency room.  He never knew what happened.  It happened right after Christmas and I don't know how I have managed to live without him, but I have and he would be so proud. This is the hardest thing I have ever had to do.  Just putting one foot in front of the other isn't easy.  God bless you.

Comment by Kathryn HUDSON on July 28, 2016 at 8:31am

My sweet healthy husband who was never sick or took any medications had a cardiac arrest on March 22 and went to heaven on April 6. He had worked a long day that day and came home about 8:30 and I had dinner ready for him and he seemed just fine, he ate, then i was putting food away in a fridge just outside in the garage and when I came in he was sitting on the floor and I said "what happened", he didn't say anything but had a surprised look on his face, stretched his arms out and laid back on the floor and then rolled over on his stomach. I immediately called 911, they came in about 10 min. they worked on him,took him to the hospital, moved him the next day to the best hospital in our city, but he never regained consciousness.  I had to sign papers to take him off life support.  We had been married 47 years, he had his own business and I helped him so we were always together.  He walked 20 miles a week, played golf, tennis.  no one would have thought this could happen to him.  He had just been to the doctor for a check up the month before and all blood work was fine, blood pressure was perfect, weight perfect. No symptoms.  I don't want to live without him.  There was practically standing room only at his service, and the people just had wonderful things to say about him. I'm going to a grief share meeting at a church Aug. 16, has anyone here been to one of those meetings?  I'm not much on joining things, just wondered.  thank you all for this website

Comment by Marsha on July 28, 2016 at 7:57am

Robin, I lost my best friend, my spouse of 55 years six months ago on the 14th. I know exactly what you are feeling. I try to put on a happy face when I'm with people and all the while my heart is breaking. People say "one day at a time". It seems to hurt more as time goes on. I really don't want to be here without him. I feel so alone. You are in my thoughts on prayers.

Comment by Robin Quinn on July 28, 2016 at 7:32am

I read the posts that people put on here, I'm in my 6th month without my life and it doesn't get any easier.  You go through the motions of pretending to be alive, but nothing matters anymore.  Every time someone new posts, my heart breaks more because I know exactly how they feel and I know there will never be anything that will help the.m.

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