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Comment by Linda Engberg on January 20, 2017 at 10:50am

Dear Robin,

I thought the firsts are the worse, but I was wrong, it has been almost 4 years, and I miss him as if it was yesterday.

God Bless You, Linda

Comment by Robin Quinn on January 20, 2017 at 10:08am

One year today, I lost my love, my life, the pain never stops.  29 years, 11 months of my life was spent with him, I don't know who I am without him. If it wasn't for my children and grandchildren, I would have left this world months ago.  I found all the little notes and poems I used to write to him in a card I gave him for one of our first anniversarys,  he kept them all these years.  I miss him so much.

Comment by Linda Engberg on January 13, 2017 at 2:48pm

John the Dragon,

As my Husband used to say think before what say and put things in writing.

I still am insulted that you told us we are wallowing in pity. My Husband was my true soulmate and he will always live on in my heart and no other will ever take his place. 

You would do us all  a favor if you leave this site and go on with new life.

Comment by Louise on January 13, 2017 at 11:08am

John the Dragon, thank you for your apology; as you say, it is not what you wrote but rather the way you put it. You are very lucky that you managed to find someone you could love again and there is nothing wrong with talking about your hope and trying to inspire hope in others, that is a good thing. Unfortunately the tone of your message was antagonistic and did make some judgements on those who may be on a different path and that led to anger and trading insults on all sides. It is important for all of us to respect each other and try to be understanding and show compassion and empathy. Once again, thank you for your apology, and I am sorry for your loss and for everyone else who has lost someone. Hopefully together, we can all move forward and keep our anger in check, giving each other the support and comfort we all need x

Comment by Linda Engberg on January 13, 2017 at 8:10am

Dennis, Well said.

Comment by Dennis C. on January 13, 2017 at 7:09am

Here's a thought

Romans 12:10 — In brotherly love have tender affection for one another. In showing honor to one another, take the lead.

The best way we can help one another is to show respect. Dignify, and honor our fellow man.

When we acknowledge the pain of someone else even if we personally cannot understand, we position ourselves to offer comfort.

This is what I see as important. We need to COMFORT one another. We cannot take a persons pain away. We cannot offer them relief.
But we can comfort. We can let others cry without judgement. We can even cry with them.

Romans 12:15 — ... weep with those who weep.

Even if we feel that we have personally found the way...we need to give each person ROOM for their own personal struggles and pain, and just try to comfort. Not direct.

Comment by Linda Engberg on January 13, 2017 at 6:39am

John the Dragon,

The next time you go to church, pray God forgives you for your nastiness.

Comment by morgan on January 12, 2017 at 10:18pm

I have had a few short conversations with Richard Rivera and he is having a really rough time at the moment.  As myself and Michael suggested he has just now updated a GoFundMe page that he had before coming to this site to help pay for his wife's funeral.  

He has had the funeral but to make up for the shortfall used what little savings he had which was for his rent.  He is now facing eviction and just lost his job because of his performance under the stress of his grief.  

If you feel you want to help him just go to the GoFundMe site and search by his name.  I would link to it but I don't want to cross any boundaries that Diana may have in what she allows to be posted to her site.  

I am going to do little something anonymously and I don't think Richard felt he could ask himself so i am taking the liberty of asking for him.  Maybe just something to help get him over what we all know is the scariest time in the beginning when we are so lost and don't know where to turn.  

Just a way to help another person who is down at the bottom.  And we all know what that is like.  

Comment by stewart p on January 12, 2017 at 4:56pm

Well who all made to another New Year along with me?  Did we all get through that god awful 2 weeks that comes along at the end of every year?  I know I did.  Last post here was around the 21st, going on 4 years now, I try not to think  too much on it ahead of time, just zero in on the ground in front of me and prepare to move one step at a time along never sure, never certain and somewhat fearful how dreadful that period before Xmas until safely past New Years will hurt, will feel..   But I have notice no matter how god awful it is, or isnt everyone here including myself seem to reappear none the less.  I hate it, but I try to make something out of it.  Its never like it was before, Im not as happy person, not nearly as tolerant of others bs, but am more empathetic with those who suffer from whatever it is, afraid to die alone but not really interested in meeting anyone else.  Not excited much about anything anymore, and kind of resentful of those who are all glee about their trip to Hawaii next week or guess what they went and did or received for Christmas.  Who cares?  The next day its over and your still gonna die on day, so what have you got that I haven't?  Oh yes, that one special person who know me and stood by me regardless and I her, yeah well what a cruel ugly world it really is and now I know it first hand.  So anyway, not to be too depressing, I did survived and so did everyone else here just proving to us one more time that our "feelings" no matter how dark CAN NOT stop us.  This is simply a new way of life, a new way to know how to live with the hurt and pain of having lost and having to continue without, and I will simply add I am proud and honored to share this with all of you who too must travel this road I never imagined I would find myself on. 

Comment by Linda Engberg on January 12, 2017 at 3:23pm

I have reported John the Dragon to be removed from posting to this forum. His comment are very cruel. 

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