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Traumatic, Sudden Loss

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Traumatic, Sudden Loss

I have started this group for people who like myself have suddenly, tragically and traumatically lost a loved one.

My mom died 8 weeks ago (August 17, 2009) She had been sick but I did not know the true extent of her illness. Her doctor knew she did not have long and I went to each doctor visit and talked to him at the hospital and he never told me and I do not believe mom knew either. I am not sure.

I found my mom sitting up on her bed and I know I knew she was gone. I still am in deep shock and cry occasionally but only a minute or two. Then I am back to not feeling or feel numb.

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Loss of boyfriend due to motorcycle 3 Replies

Hello everyone, my name is Brittany. I am new to this and not quiet sure how this works. My therapist pointed me in this direction so i thought i would give it a try. I am 24 years old from…Continue

Started by Brittany. Last reply by Denise D Jan 31, 2021.

New to the Group

Hello All-I am a new widow as my husband passed away April 21, 2018 at the age of 49. He suffered a heart attack and had no previous history of any heart conditions nor does it run in his family.  I…Continue

Started by Danielle Wood Aug 2, 2018.

Struggling 2 Replies

Hi. My name is Cristal. I lost the love of my life on July 2nd. He had leukemia and had no idea. I begged him to see a doctor in the months prior to his death but he would not do it. He also suffered…Continue

Started by Cristal. Last reply by Cristal Aug 1, 2018.

My "Little Brother"

Hi Everyone, My name is Carlyn, and I live in the Ft. Lauderdale area. I joined this site because a very dear friend of mine was killed in a hit-and-run accident in May. My friend Rick, whom I called…Continue

Tags: violent, death, loss, sudden, friend

Started by Carlyn Jorgensen Aug 28, 2017.

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Comment by Dick on February 27, 2012 at 8:51pm

This has always been my favorite:

http://youtu.be/qLq_qYf4rtA

Comment by Dick on February 25, 2012 at 10:27pm
Comment by Lisa S. on February 18, 2012 at 11:39pm

dick,i like that song u dedicated to danny.this was my sis's fav band(if i get it 2 work)         http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OAQsEkvrQe4

Comment by Dick on February 18, 2012 at 7:11pm

I like to dedicate this song to Danny, it is so like him.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=inD5Svx0gV4

Comment by Dick on February 17, 2012 at 7:04pm

Thanks

Comment by Dick on February 17, 2012 at 12:33am

If you haven't seen Danny's video, please take a look and help me push it over 1300 view by his 6 month anniversary of his passing. Thanks in advance.

 http://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/video/daniel-my-son-you-will-alwa...

Comment by Bri Z. on February 16, 2012 at 1:58pm

I have lost my cousin who was my Best Friend and more like a Brother to me then a Cousin. Back in 2009 we lost him do to suicide .. And I blame myself everyday for not being there like I was in the past.. You see we lost contact for almost 2 years do to family issues and when I got that call actually for the 2nd time I was in Shock!!!.. Because back in 96 he temp to commit suicide and didn't succeed he drove his car and he was 17 at this time and went to a friends house and stole his friends dads gun and drove towards the Arizona borderline and as he was driving he shot himself..... well after shooting himself he drove off into the ditch along the freeway and put his car in park and he told me he remembers everything going black well if it wasent for a son and a father going hunting that day and driving down that freeway and seeing that there was a car parked in the ditch and stopping to see what was the matter my cousin would have been gone then well to make this story short they air-vac him to Tucson hospital and that is when we found out he survived it but blew out both his eyes so he was going to be blind for the rest of his life... well after all said and done a couple years later he would talk to me about how he wished he never did that because it drove him nuts not being able to see and .... he started drinking and taking Oxycontin well a year after we kinda loss touch he had a son so I thought he was doing good well I heard he wasent it drove him crazy he couldn't see what his son looked like well 3 years after that I get another call telling me to get to the hospital ASAP that my cousin is in the ICU well I get there and my cousin is hooked up on life support and at this time they were running test to see what happen and if he had any brain function well come to find out the blood stop and he was brain dead he drank that night wondering off onto his drive port and passed out and sometime in that time he stop breathing the cops were called they came out and did nothing and the 2nd time they came out the rushed him to the hospital which was the last time I seen my beloved cousin he passed away on April 5th 2009 and I still am not over it every day i cry and cry... and blame myself for not being there for him.... his poor son now has no daddy and the last he seen of his dad was in the hospital to say goodbye... we never new what caused his death in till we got the autopsy back and it read..... suicide due to overdose............ and I dont know what to do I blame myself for not being there for him being we were so close and I miss him dearly and wish none of this never happened!!!! and I don't understand why I cant let go!!!! And on top of losing him I have lost 4 other people right after him so I'm dealing with alot of loved ones who have passed since 2009 all the way till 2012 and I cant deal with this I'm so sad and depressed kinda in a numb state.... I really would like some support .. and friends that I can just try to get through this with...

Comment by mercy on February 15, 2012 at 2:06pm

Lisa; your story breaks my heart. As long as you are alive; there is hope. I’ve not had financial setbacks as a result of my loss but emotionally I’ve spiraled and lost touch with a lot of my family and friends. For a long time, I wanted to just end it. Now I know I have to keep living; I have to keep the legacy of mom alive and of my dad and siblings that have gone before me. As long as we have breath, there is hope. Lisa, I know its very hard for you to pull yourself up after so many tragedies but I would urge you to take baby steps. Don’t try to do too much at once. Since you have a roof over your head (no matter how uncomfortable), you can start by trying to get some assistance to buy your medication and food. There are a lot of programs out there that help destitute people. Once your health has improved, try and get a part time job, the money may not be enough, but it just gives you a sense of purpose and some little independence to be able to buy yourself little treats like nail polish or hair shampoo. There is hope, please don’t give up. I can spare something small for you if you contact me directly.
God Bless.

Comment by Brandon R on February 13, 2012 at 10:41pm

I also feel so alone...even when surrounded by friends, family, whomever.  Reach out to me...we all need friends.

Comment by christianlee on February 13, 2012 at 7:35pm
How sweet.
 

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