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Traumatic, Sudden Loss
I have started this group for people who like myself have suddenly, tragically and traumatically lost a loved one.
My mom died 8 weeks ago (August 17, 2009) She had been sick but I did not know the true extent of her illness. Her doctor knew she did not have long and I went to each doctor visit and talked to him at the hospital and he never told me and I do not believe mom knew either. I am not sure.
I found my mom sitting up on her bed and I know I knew she was gone. I still am in deep shock and cry occasionally but only a minute or two. Then I am back to not feeling or feel numb.
My mom died 8 weeks ago (August 17, 2009) She had been sick but I did not know the true extent of her illness. Her doctor knew she did not have long and I went to each doctor visit and talked to him at the hospital and he never told me and I do not believe mom knew either. I am not sure.
I found my mom sitting up on her bed and I know I knew she was gone. I still am in deep shock and cry occasionally but only a minute or two. Then I am back to not feeling or feel numb.
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Comment by Nancy Errigo on July 24, 2013 at 7:39pm
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I lost my 32 year old son two months ago suddenly. I feel I could have help prevented it, but I wasn't there. I never thought this could have happened to me and my other children. It is so very painful.
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Comment by Michelle H on July 18, 2013 at 3:14pm
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Connie's words are right on. You didn't mean to hurt them. Your emotions are all over the place.
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Comment by dream moon JO B on July 18, 2013 at 3:14pm
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connie is rht l we can all loze our tempers ery now thn we can
som thngs wear saed to me just befor xmas lst yr if i had not went out wen i did i wud of hit my own nease im asmsed to say
i no thngs hav bea sawd ovr th yrs in th family on my dads sid th feuds bean goin on for yrs on my mums sid its just sort of got a bit biger
all i no if th world woz to end i wud end up getng th blame for it i woz speakng to som 1 th othr day thy evn saed th wud get th blame for it 2
it least on hear we r safe we can say how we feal
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Comment by Connie K on July 18, 2013 at 3:02pm
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Forgive yourself - you're only human. Just tell them you ae sorry and move on. I'm sure they get how you feel. I have lost my temper with my husband a few times and know how bad that feels when you know someone else is in so much pain. I'm sure your family will understand that your anger was not directed at them but just at the world!
Just being conscious of it now will help you in the future. Blessings and hugs to you.
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Thanks everyone for all your comments regarding the sudden passing away of my father. It helped a lot. We decided to donate to agencies that promoted things that my father was interested in. It helped making the donations. Today I did something terrible. I was talking to my brother about some minor issue and for some reason lost my temper and yelled at him. My mother tried to calm me and I yelled at her too. I feel terrible. All of us are going through grief and my brother is having job stress and how could I do this?
How can I make myself not do this again?
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I don’t visit this site as often as I used to and ‘m sad to see so many new members. I know no words can console or comfort us on most days, but I want you to all know I understand. My mom and brother died within one year of each other 2010-2011. My brother died suddenly and my mom had a long illness. Mom suffered so much, I still grieve her suffering, but my brother died suddenly at age 43 from a brain hemorrhage. Both deaths have been extremely tough on our family. I hate that mom suffered so much and that my brother had his life cut off so suddenly, leaving a young family. I’ve been in deep depression for the last three years. I just do the bare minimum to get by. Having a young child has been my only saving grace as it forces me to get up every day; otherwise I would probably never leave my bed. Time does not make things easier, we just learn to live with the hole in our hearts.
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Mary and Marilyn and other grievers, I think what you describe is the neverending rollercoaster ride that is going to be part of our life journey until we can be reunited with our loved ones in heaven. The price of great love is the sorrow we feel when our child can no longer be seen, heard, or felt in the way we want them. As parents, our child's death is the one thing we can't fix. And it's always a parent's greatest fear from the moment they enter the world and take their first breath. God help us all through this pain.
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Comment by anne on July 8, 2013 at 9:32pm
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I'm so sorry I meant Carol. I read it wrong. I better get new glasses!
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Sweet Marilyn, I'm pretty sure there's no sorrow, pain, or sickness where our loved ones are. I believe there's nothing but love, and beauty, and happiness. I also believe that when we meet in heaven it will be like a blink of an eye since we last were together. As a matter of fact, I'm counting on it!
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Marilyn, I recently read in a book about the afterlife, that our loved ones in heaven don't miss us because they are with us all the time.
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