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Comment by Dreama on August 2, 2014 at 11:42am

My dad died 9 years ago. After he did I started a group I call H.U.G.S. When he passed he told me to keep helping people so that's what I've been striving to do ever since. So, if I may here is the link to the blog. Lots of good information there I invite you to join and together we can help each other heal.

http://heartsunitedgatherstrength.blogspot.com/

Comment by Sharronm55us on July 26, 2014 at 5:35pm

I do not keep time of the days, I know when this all happened but for me, counting time will not help.  I am trying very hard to count the good memories, the special moments, the laughs, snorts and those smiles!!  I write them down in a journal as they come to my mind.  Doesn't matter when the positive moments or hours or days happened, months, years, etc happened...I am writing them down... staying positive and not dwelling on all the negative surrounding the sudden death of my daughter and the guilt, cavern in my heart, and things I wish I could have done differently, all those do not make a difference really.  What matters is celebrating her life, and in some way each day, I am doing that.  Huggles my sweet daughter, huggles....LoL, I know you hated when I said or typed that so let me change it to, Hug ya' brat!!  LoL

Comment by Jim Eginoire on July 24, 2014 at 2:28pm

Dawn,

I'm so sorry for your loss, and I wish I had words that could comfort you in your grief right now. 

I can tell you if you have faith, Christ will carry you through this horrible time, heal your heart and restore your love.

Grief is only the beginning.  Because your reality changed in the blink of an eye, your brain will take time adjusting to that shock.  My wife died almost 4 years ago and I still struggle with anxiety and staying focused to complete tasks that were once easy for me. 

Losing a loved one, especially a spouse, changes everything in your life. 

I have remarried, and am blessed with a beautiful wife who I connected with emotionally in a short time.  We share the same deep faith, and have committed to putting God first in our marriage.

I still grieve the loss of my wife, but it ambushes me. 

You can survive this loss, but you have to trust God.

Comment by Danielle McEwe on July 24, 2014 at 1:03pm

Two days ago marked 11 months since my sister was taken from us. It is so hard to believe that it has almost been a year since I have talked to her or heard her laugh. I cannot help but think about where she would have been now had she not died. She would have been coming up on her 1 year wedding anniversary in a week and a half and I know she had been thinking about having children so maybe she would have been on her way. I feel so cheated and I feel as though she were cheated out of her life. I feel as though the person responsible for her death has stolen my family's future. I wish that it had never happened and I would give anything for one more day with my sister. The next month is going to be so hard with the last of the "first year" milestones. My dad's birthday on August 2 and then then her wedding anniversary on August 3, the day after. Last year my dad's birthday present was giving his daughter away to the man of her dreams, and this year, it is grieving that daughters death. And finally....August 22, the one year mark. It fills me with dread just thinking about it. I just wish that that day did not exist so that I did not have to remember what happened and how I found out, and the look on my dad's face when he told me, and the sound of my mother weeping and the image of my dad breaking down and the faces of my grandparents who looked lost and unsure of everything around them...and of her husband of 19 days, looking so lost and broken. These are the images that swim through my head one a day to day basis and no one really knows the strength it takes to hold myself together some days, especially in the days leading up to the anniversay of her death. I guess all I can do it pray for strength and hope that myself and my family get through the next month with as much grace and dignity as possible.

Comment by dawn larvan on July 24, 2014 at 8:54am

Hi I'm new here and just finding my way around. I don't know how I'm feeling does that sound silly? My husband died age 50 unexpectedly in front of my eyes while on holiday in Dorset. He just said he felt funny and then he was gone. I'm having a really hard time believing it even though I saw it with my,own eyes it was 8 weeks ago and nigel was a very fit man cycling, kayaking,motorbikes didn't smoke occasional drinker. And to make matters worse he died the same day as my dad 22nd may same age 50 and of same thing heart attack!!!! 33 yrs apart. I've got family and lots of friends but feel so alone

Comment by Jim Eginoire on July 19, 2014 at 8:32pm

My condolences for your loss.  I'm not a soldier, but am aware of the toll PTSD has taken on our military.  I suffer from it after losing my wife of 24 years in 2010.  Your brain changes, not just from grief, but in ways that you become aware of slowly.  Thank you for your service and you expressed the situation very well.  Most people think PTSD is just from the horrors of battle and don't give thought to the fact a soldier is trained to stuff "normal" emotions, allowing them to fester and impact the daily life of every soldier who has experienced battle and/or loss of a best friend.  God bless you and heal your heart

Comment by Holycow on July 19, 2014 at 7:58pm

thank you, melissa! I really really appreciate it!

Comment by Melissa T on July 19, 2014 at 6:54pm

Hallei-Just watched the video you did for Sergei and than posted on my facebook in hopes that my friends will do the same after seeing it. I am so sorry for your loss, and I think your video will have quite an impact on people, it's a good thing you're doing. Thanks.

Comment by Holycow on July 19, 2014 at 4:47pm

Hello Everyone, I lost my boyfriend a month ago to suicide. He was a SGT in the Army and I wanted to get my story out there. It would mean so much to me if you watched this and passed it on! God Bless you all who are grieving too!

http://youtu.be/YYYBdU6hgnA

Comment by Holycow on July 19, 2014 at 4:39pm

Hello Everyone, I lost my boyfriend a month ago to suicide. He was a SGT in the Army and I wanted to get my story out there. It would mean so much to me if you watched this and passed it on! God Bless you all who are grieving too!

http://youtu.be/YYYBdU6hgnA

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