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Traumatic, Sudden Loss

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Traumatic, Sudden Loss

I have started this group for people who like myself have suddenly, tragically and traumatically lost a loved one.

My mom died 8 weeks ago (August 17, 2009) She had been sick but I did not know the true extent of her illness. Her doctor knew she did not have long and I went to each doctor visit and talked to him at the hospital and he never told me and I do not believe mom knew either. I am not sure.

I found my mom sitting up on her bed and I know I knew she was gone. I still am in deep shock and cry occasionally but only a minute or two. Then I am back to not feeling or feel numb.

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Loss of boyfriend due to motorcycle 3 Replies

Hello everyone, my name is Brittany. I am new to this and not quiet sure how this works. My therapist pointed me in this direction so i thought i would give it a try. I am 24 years old from…Continue

Started by Brittany. Last reply by Denise D Jan 31, 2021.

New to the Group

Hello All-I am a new widow as my husband passed away April 21, 2018 at the age of 49. He suffered a heart attack and had no previous history of any heart conditions nor does it run in his family.  I…Continue

Started by Danielle Wood Aug 2, 2018.

Struggling 2 Replies

Hi. My name is Cristal. I lost the love of my life on July 2nd. He had leukemia and had no idea. I begged him to see a doctor in the months prior to his death but he would not do it. He also suffered…Continue

Started by Cristal. Last reply by Cristal Aug 1, 2018.

My "Little Brother"

Hi Everyone, My name is Carlyn, and I live in the Ft. Lauderdale area. I joined this site because a very dear friend of mine was killed in a hit-and-run accident in May. My friend Rick, whom I called…Continue

Tags: violent, death, loss, sudden, friend

Started by Carlyn Jorgensen Aug 28, 2017.

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Comment by mercy on June 18, 2011 at 8:43pm
Hi Karen; thanks for thinking of us, we are all together in this journey, we really need each other. I think of you all a lot and I know the pain you are going through. It just helps to know someone else is there and understands. God Bless.
Comment by Rachel Lynn Schuler on June 16, 2011 at 10:21pm
thanks so much Karen for your kind words....
Comment by Karen R. on June 16, 2011 at 9:51pm
Just saying hello to everyone, I read everyone's postings and I think about all of you often.
Comment by mercy on June 16, 2011 at 11:24am
Yes, she's the only child I have. Mom wanted me to have a baby so badly; this was her last wish and I know God brought Michelle into this world for that very reason.
Comment by Semary Rose on June 15, 2011 at 6:15pm

Hi Mercy.  I have a 2 year old and a 4.5 year old.  They keep me busy for sure.  Do you only have the one 18 month old?

Comment by mercy on June 15, 2011 at 12:16pm
Hi Semary; yesterday was a better day. I tried so hard to keep thoughts of mom at bay. I was told its not healthy to push thoughts away but sometimes I have to do it to avoid hurting my daughter. She's seen me cry so many times and its having an impact on her. I'm sorry you had a bad day yesterday; this is the price we pay for loving them so much unfortunately. You sound like a sweet sensitive person and I know your husband is glad you are the mothers of those kids. How old are your kids? My little one is 18 months old. I feel so bad for her since all she's known is a sad depressed mom. I had post natal depression then three months after she was born, mom was diagnosed with cancer. Just as we were getting over that shock my 43 year old brother died and in November my favorite brother had a disabling case of meningitis. Its been one thing after another. I just pray that you have a better day today and remember its ok to cry; I read that crying signals the beggining of healing. When mom died, I didn't cry for a week; after the shock wore off, the flow started. Have a nice day dear.
Comment by Terri Kuta on June 14, 2011 at 8:04pm
/hi everyone well i had my knee surgery yesterday and my wish didn't come true they say they almost put you in a death sleep while doing surgery I was hoping my father or my son would come thru to tell me why they both had to die so close together but I don't remember anything,
Comment by Semary Rose on June 14, 2011 at 7:42pm
Mercy, I am so glad you responded to some of our comments.  I was beginning to worry.  It is in my nature.  It looks like you are having a better day today.  "Better" in terms of the horrendous days we are all too familiar with.  I am relieved to here from you.  I have had a particularyly "bad" day.  I cried on and off all day.  I am having memory floods of the first few hours we met each other for a date.  It won't stop.  I see him there while I am pushing out our babies.  It is torturous.  It is finally hitting home.  I await peace and hearing from you today, gives me that hope.
Comment by Rachel Lynn Schuler on June 14, 2011 at 5:26pm

mercy, I understand your anger at God, I was that way when my dad died, but, God isnt the enemy here....for some reason all this happened to you, and I am so sorry for it, but instead of being mad at him, I think to try and help you through you need to look to him, you may not agree, but it helps me to know God is looking over me....you are so sweet, I hope you find peace...I am finding it little by little....the griefshare sounds good, anything you can do to help you, you need people hun...dont be afraid to reach out....I know I need them too, and am glad I have my church family....in my mom's memory, I am going to be helping at a nursing home soon, I am doing it for her, but also for me to heal....I'm proud of myself and she is proud too....we are all experiencing pain mercy, we are supporting each other....we are here for each other, which is why I think this website is so great, it has helped me immensely....and to meet such sweet people such as yourself who understand what im dealing with, its nice

Comment by mercy on June 14, 2011 at 5:17pm
Semary; thanks a lot for your message of support. I'm so sorry for the death of your husband. We are the same age and I know we need to be strong for our kids. I know God will keep your whole family safe. Please don't stress yourself about it. I know I've become paranoid since we lose a close family

member every year. Sometimes we lose two family members. I come from a huge extended family and I still cannot wrap my mind around this many loses. I keep hoping I should be next so I can be spared the pain of another loss but I know my daughter needs me. You all are so kind to be there for me whilst dealing with your own pain. God Bless.

 

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