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Permalink Reply by David H on June 27, 2012 at 10:16pm

Iam sorry for what happend.My wife was in and out of the hospital for years for her heart and the docs never did go far enough untile the last minute when it was too late. I don, trust doctors or hospitals

Permalink Reply by Mary Wilson on July 31, 2012 at 7:41pm

My husband was 54 years old and in and out of the hospital for 3 months. They couldn't determine exactly what he had- some kind of aggresive lymphoma. He was is pain the whole time. I finally told them enough. He was suffering so much and they kept trying to do different procedures. They need to know (they know) but they need to stop when it's obvious there will be no cure. I have lost a great deal of respect for doctors because of this. I guess some people feel they want them to keep going and doing everything possible but the time comes when you need to let go.

Permalink Reply by Halie Smith on June 28, 2012 at 7:17pm

Hi Melanie,

I am so sorry and can relate to loosing your soul mate at such a young age. My Michael just turned 25 when he moved to heaven.  I hope and pray that time will make it easier for you.  So far i can not say that time has helped for me but it did just happen in April.  I dont know why such tragic things happen to some people and others seem to get through life relatively easy. Just know that you are not alone though. Feel free to email me if you would like.

Permalink Reply by Mary Wilson on July 31, 2012 at 7:43pm

I lost my husband in March. Does anyone know how long it takes for this awful grief to subside? I know it never goes away completely but it must get better somehow. How can you go on with it?

Permalink Reply by Debra Waszut on July 5, 2012 at 2:57pm

I am so sorry for your loss.  I lost my husband at age 54 to a genetic condition that went unnoticed and he died of a massive heart attack 6 weeks ago.  His dad died the same way.   My thoughts and prayers are with you.   It is painful to go through this I know.  I am still going through it but I know I will be strong like he wanted me to be and keep going to church and not lose my faith through this.  I want him to have peace in heaven because I believe God was in control of this and all things.  I have to believe that to get through this. 

Permalink Reply by renee collier on July 10, 2012 at 2:42am

I am sorry for your sudden loss. I am glad you found this site so that you may find some type of support from others that are also grieving their loved ones.  It is so hard to deal with any death of a loved one but it is harder when the death is so sudden and they leave us at such a young age.  My life partner was only 43.  I went to meet him on his boat to hang out on his boat together.  When I got there I found  him dead.  He passed away this past april 27th.  It was not that long ago.  There are days that I cry less and there are days like today where I stay home and cry.   Everyone deals with their grief in their own way. so be patient and allow yourself all the time in the world that you need.  Some of the things that have been helpful to me is... I found a grief support group and I have one on one therapy.  I also keep a journal and I write as if I am talking to him.  and I take time to cry when I need to.  I am trying to learn to be patient with myself during this unbearable time. And I come on this site as often as i need to. 

I will be praying for you --

Permalink Reply by Collin Bentley on July 24, 2012 at 8:23pm

So sorry for your loss.  I lost my brother to liver failure about four months.  I have held on to my faith for support and the tears do eventually slow down.  He was my big brother and only brother.  Life is so capricious at times.  You will be in my prayers.

God be with in these most trying times.

Permalink Reply by Mary Wilson on July 30, 2012 at 9:41pm

My husband was having pain in his side so he went to doctor and doctor did blood work and said his

spleen was distended. Within a few days they called and said he had a rare form of lymphoma and

he needed to see an oncologist right away. He was 54 years old. I spent the next three weeks in

and out of doctor's offices and hospital and he had all kinds of surgeries and procedures. He died

within 3 months.

Permalink Reply by Debra Waszut on July 31, 2012 at 3:26pm

I am so sorry for your loss.  I lost my husband at age 54 also to a heart attack.  He was the love of mylife.

Permalink Reply by Debra Waszut on July 31, 2012 at 3:27pm

it was 10 weeks ago

Permalink Reply by Mary Wilson on July 31, 2012 at 6:35pm

Mine was 4 months ago. How have you been dealing with your grief? I am in a back hole and I don't want to deal with anyone or anything.

Permalink Reply by Mary Wilson on July 31, 2012 at 7:46pm

How do you get out of bed in the morning? I have two dogs that I get up and feed and then go back to bed. I have a 23 old daughter who is moving out this month. I am deaf and I think I am getting very nervous as I have never lived on my own. My husband was my link to the hearing world. It also does not help that I am bi-polar. I don't know how much is the depression and how much is the awful grief I feel at losing my husband.

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