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I have been married over 23 years. I lost my son 7months ago and now my husband and I can't even talk without yelling. I did not know it was this bad, I guess until cause we don't know what to say to one another  anymore. I just want everyone to know if you loss a child often times the marriage is gone too. We are like room mates.

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Permalink Reply by Kari Hurley on May 18, 2013 at 1:13am

I have experienced the same in my marriage. I have so much anger that I do not know what to do with it. We are not able to talk about my son without me getting angry and it is not like he says anything bad I just take everything the wrong way. I have given up on most everything and everyone in my life as losing my son (who is my world) forever destroyed me. My husband and I do not sleep in the same room anymore. Most days I do not want to be around anyone, just by myself. I can not watch TV  I have to keep busy because if I don't then my head plays with me and I try to figure out what went wrong and look at all the things I did wrong. Every time I think of my son being gone forever and never seeing him again or hearing his voice is like a knife that cuts deeper and deeper killing me. Most days I just wish it would because I do not know how to go on. 

Permalink Reply by Michelle H on May 28, 2013 at 10:33am

Please try to be gentle with yourselves. Everyone grieves differently, especially men and women. You are both suffering from the worst possible thing a parent could ever have to face. Try not to let it destroy you.

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