I just want to know what happened...

   Last Monday my husband died in his sleep at the age of 26. He was fine when I went to work and when I came home my daughter (7 yrs old) said she couldn't wake him up all day. That was when I found him.
  We are waiting for the autopsy report to find out the cause of death. He had high blood pressure and was born with a rare genetic disorder called Ectodermal Dysplasia. He was otherwise healthy.
   I'm so frustrated that it could take up to 90 days to know what happened. 
   My daughter is having a lot of guilt, so am I. I know it's so fresh, but the pain is just unbelievable. 
   I'm just here to meet some people who know what it is to lose someone suddenly and to learn some ways to deal with the grief.

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Permalink Reply by Natasha L. on November 17, 2010 at 9:31am
Steacy, I cannot imagine losing someone in such a tragic way! I'm so sorry that you lost your mom and for what you and your family have been put through.
I believe everything happens for a reason, I don't know why Matt was taken from me at such a young age. But I DO know that he would want my daughter and I to live our lives to the fullest and to look at each day as a precious gift. Which is what we're trying to do.
Without my family and my faith, this would have been an impossible time for me to cope with. Of course, there are rough days where all I do is cry (I'm sure everyone here knows how that is). But it is a day by day way of living for now.
Permalink Reply by steacy del valle on November 17, 2010 at 10:04am
it is a day by day process some days its ok but others you feel like you dont know how to continue i hope by the grace of god we could all find peace one day and that we could all be able to continue without pain and just remember the people with a smile instead of with tears even tough that tie is not no but i hope eventually it will be
Permalink Reply by jennifer on November 20, 2010 at 1:03pm
i dont know if u r a religous person or not but god will be able to help with ur pain and being there for ur daughter will help also..please try to make her understand it is not her fault..my kids blamed themselves when my son was murdered by the man i was with and it took a long time to convince them otherwise..when my son was killed i was 5 weeks pregnant with that man's baby,cristian is now gonna be 1yr next month and looks so much like his brother it hurts sometimes but even though he is gone u and ur daughter are here and 1 day u will all be together again..the worst part is waiting to find out why,the 2nd worse day of my life was when i was told the man i was in love with murdered my baby

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