Hi I'm new and looking forward to talking with others that might understand what I am going through

My name is Karen and I lost my husband of 28 yrs on 01/13/2011. He was in an automobile accident and was gone instantly.  I have friends and family who care about me, but I feel so lonely inside.  This man was my best friend and I loved him dearly.  The first year went by in a blur and I thought I would make it through, but this year has been rough.  All the feelings you would think I would have in the beginning are very much there now.
Some days I don't think I will make it through, but I do.  I keep alienating myself from friends and group situation.  I know this is not good, but it is what is happening right now. 

I thought joining this group might help me.  Maybe talking to someone else who understands some of the feelings I am going through.  What would probably really help me is helping someone else and having empathy for their situation.

Well, its nice to meet you from this group and hope to talk with you soon.

Views: 192

Replies to This Discussion

Permalink Reply by Karen Casey on November 11, 2012 at 12:02pm

Thank You Kathy!  I am so sorry for your loss too.  I have alot of depression and anxiety and have sometimes wondered if it is like post traumatic stress disorder.  I am seeing a therapist and he helps me so much, but I go home and there is always something to trigger sadness again.  My kids are here with my grand-daughter...I love them dearly.  Anytime feelings are involved I loose it, so I try to avoid being around people (but at the same time I crave it becos I feel so lonely).

Im so glad you replied.  Having a friend that can feel what I feel is precious.  I will email you.

Karen

Permalink Reply by DONNA DISALVO on November 18, 2012 at 12:02am

My name is Donna & unfortunately I can relate to some of what you're going through. I also lost my soulmate of only 25 years, he fell asleep while driving and hit a cement wall.We were in Tulsa almost 9 mos.His "MOTHER" lured him back by lying to him, making him think life would be great. Grandpa is ill, has a lot of land etc.. BULLSHIT! Against my better judgement I gave in.Packed up our life 1 cat 1 chihuahua,2boys 1 18 ,1 27. 9 Months later "THE KNOCK ON THE DOOR" JAN. 17 2012 I PASS THAT WALL EVERYTIME I GO TO WORK!!!. I do have my(our) boys but they to are grieving they try not to show it.I have no family here we moved out of the house that we lived in  just could not be there without him we are living with Steve's younger brother. My Family in LOUISIANA beg us to come home but I cant bear the thought of leaving him. I do not talk to Anyone about how I really feel NOT ONE PERSON in my family,don't really have any 'friends'. That is why I like this site.Hope you know that you are not alone.

 

 

 

 

Permalink Reply by Karen Casey on November 18, 2012 at 10:17am

Thank You Donna for replying.  There has not been alot of people on this site since I've joined.  I am so sorry for your loss...it is very similar to mine.  It would be really hard to live somewhere where you don't know very many ppl.  I am thankful for longtime friends here, but sometimes they just don't know what to say either and hanging with them is not always easy for me anymore.  Its nice to have someone to talk to that understands what you are going through.  The mile marker where Scott's accident was is close to here and I go by it alot too.  At first I just felt sad, then I tried screaming at it and now I think about it, but most the times when I look over to see it I've already gone by.  I will never forget mile marker 87!  I would love to hear from you again...its nice to know you are not alone and I hope you know you are not either!

RSS

Groups

Latest Activity

Gary Ruby is now a member of Online Grief Support - A Social Community
Tuesday
Welcome Them!
Julie is now a member of Online Grief Support - A Social Community
Nov 5
Welcome Them!
Speed Weasel commented on Speed Weasel's blog post A Return to GriefShare and a Crisis of Identity
"GriefShare is a church based support group. They do have meetings online, but the usual format is a group of people experiencing a loss getting together weekly to watch videos (13 weeks total) about grief and loss. After the video, we talk about the…"
Oct 21
Natasha commented on Speed Weasel's blog post A Return to GriefShare and a Crisis of Identity
"is griefshare a website like this?"
Oct 21
dream moon JO B updated their profile
Oct 16
Morgan Sangrouber is now a member of Online Grief Support - A Social Community
Oct 10
Welcome Them!
Addie replied to Kali's discussion It was not supposed to be like this in the group Being the Other Woman/Other Man
"Kali I’m so so sorry you are going through this. Grief is hard enough, but going through it secretly, all the while having to continue showing up for your kids, is just brutal. Perhaps your friend was careful to hide your conversations behind…"
Sep 26
Kali added a discussion to the group Being the Other Woman/Other Man
Thumbnail

It was not supposed to be like this

In 2014 I met the most amazing man ever. We were both in our very early 20s and were looking for different things at the time. We ceased communication for roughly 6 months. During which time, he completed basic training and joined the Air Force. By the time we reconnected he was already at his first duty station.. 8 hours away.We decided we wanted to continue our relationship and proceeded to cultivate a deeply emotional connection. Regular calls and video chats, visits while he was home on…See More
Sep 26
1 Comment

© 2024   Created by Ninja.   Powered by

Badges  |  Report an Issue  |  Terms of Service