Lost my sister in law december 15th 2015. She ended her life one hour after celebrating my son's 6th birthday. She loved my son and my son LOVED he very very much. I feel guilty because when I got to her house with my kids and Cake I went straight up to her room and noticed she looked as if her and her husband had an argument or something I could just tell by the look on her face something was wrong. I felt a bit awkward because my kids were in the room with us (her and her husband) , so we went to go down stairs and sing happy birthday .

I could still tell there was something going on but I just didn't ask her since everyone was there (grandparents, uncles and nephews and other aunts) my husband was on the couch talking about upgrading his cell phone while I was washing the cake plates after we were done. my sister in law was standing with me and helping me put the rest of the cake in a container to save for next day. I almost asked her but I was so busy with cleaning up and getting ready to leave (8:20pm) on a tuesday night . I went home and took a shower right away , as soon as I got out of the shower I saw her husbands number calling me . He asked me if Thuy (his wife) was at my house and I just told him no? and asked why? he said she went to fred meyer but didn't come back , it was about 9:15 when he called . I called her right away after that and she didn't answer, then I texted her twice and she didn't reply. so I left it alone. her husband called again and I told him she didn't answer my call or text. I proceeded to get ready for bed. (I SHOULD HAVE KNOWN! SINCE I ALREADY SAW SHE WAS UPSET)  but I didn't text her again until her husband called a THIRD time.

I then texted her if she was ok and if she needs to come to my house she can .  that was 9:38pm. by then it was too late she had jumped off a over pass bridge with no fences at 9:33pm ( first phone calls into 911). my sister in law thuy is born and raise 18 years in Belgium she came to live here because she fell in love with my husbands brother (over internet) she went to college here in USA graduated 4 years later at 23 years old this june 2015. she found a job one month later making a very good amount of income .

I'm not sure why I'm telling everyone who reads this, since I can't explain everything here. but I miss her so much ... she spent a lot of time at my house, with my family ,  we would go to beach , shopping, out to eat, grocery shopping... she would take my son with her and her husband to their friends house who had a boy same age as my son. my son would come spend the night at there house on weekends once in a while . (they lived ONE block away) I just am so sad she did this ON my son's birthday. knowing how much he loved her. I searched her cell phone and found most of her pictures and videos had my son in them. and my daughter in some too.  we never found her purse. we texted each other everyday. she seemed so normal. her husband had called 911 to report her missing since she had stopped replying to his texts and he could tell she was sucidial even though she didn't say it but she kept telling him its over and she loved him and to take care of himself.  when we got the news we ran over to there house and everyone was screaming and crying uncontrollably rolling on the floor.

 I found out that she had dropped off something in my garage about 7 pm. (I was at the mall with kids ) my husband said she came over and said she was giving me something and he was watching tv and let her in, she opened the garage and put in containers full of supplies cleaning supplies, bathroom supplies make up wipes , nail polish , cooking seasonings, air fresheners, a stack of new plastic boxes.  I didn't know she did this. My husband didn't even look at what she was putting in there. Thuys husband said she confessed that she did something very bad.  she stole those boxes from Fred Meyer . so he told her its ok and I'm a little confused about it that she said she "forgot to pay" or she actually stole them, and now she was panicking that someone was writing her license plate down  .  but he  told her it was ok and she can go back there and  just tell them it was a mistake she forgot to pay. they he helped her put that stuff in the car and bring to my house . which i don't understand why she "stole" these items? my laptop is dying so i have to end this here. I just don't know why she did this, why would she go through with it. it's been over 2 weeks. and I just keep thinking about everything as to WHY ? I spent so much time with her and this is something she never talked to me about. (suicide) she never once mentioned this. we had a friend who died similar almost 2 years ago by jumping from parking garage.