I lost my husband of 12 years on Sept. 22, 2016 from an aortic aneurysm. I have two young daughters ages 7 and 4. Last Friday (Oct. 21) I receive a phone call that my 3 year old niece was tragically killed in a tractor accident. My girls are very close with her and her older brother. I will be telling them tomorrow what has happened. It is so unbelievable to me how much tragic loss our family has had to bear these last few weeks. The whole thing seems surreal. I have no idea how my girls are going to handle this next round of terrible news. My oldest is already struggling as it is. I'm just trying to hold it together at this point myself. I've returned to work (I'm a teacher), which has been the best thing for me right now. My girls keep me going too. I think my husband would be proud of me, but I feel so lost and alone without him.

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Exactly... we all are... and feel for you at this time!... thank you for sharing thsee huge losses... you have my prayers!

Hi Kerri,

I don' know exactly what you are going through, but I have been through th traumatic loss of a my best friend, and the loss of my dad  in less than a week. I had trouble holding it together, I hope that you are honest with your children and let them know it's okay to feel sad, or even angry. It has to be hard for you to see them go through this. You want to protect them from anything and everything but as a family you can get through it. Always be there for them to talk to. My brother was paralyzed in a car accident when I was 12 and my parents struggled but always made sure they had time for me and my sisters.

The loneliness you feel will probably take a long time to go away. Losing a husband, friend is very hard.

Stay positive, and keep talking about your feelings what you are feeling is normal. Don't let anyone tell you that you should be over it, there is no right way to grieve.

Try to stay strong. There is no shame in seeking professional help. I did and Iam better for doing so.

I wish your children the best. I know how hard it is to be strong and keep going for them.  but they need you the most right now and it's good that your back to work . But you have to remind your self , don't push your self too hard . Take a break when you need one because it will wear you down if you keep pushing your self to stay busy. (I've been doing this with my kids ) . I hope you have support from other family. xxxooo . 

I am so sorry for your loss. My 18 year old son died in a car accident on August 26, 2016, and I am a teacher, too. I went back to work very soon, which at first helped, but I am finding myself needing a little time now and then. Grief counseling helps, finding others to talk to, and spending time with my surviving children. Prayers for your peace and comfort.

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