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Losing friendships
After my son recently passed away, I read that it's common to lose friends and make new ones. I never would have expected that the person I had considered to be my best friend would be one that would choose to walk away from the friendship. Has anyone else had a similar experience?
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Permalink Reply by William Fielding on
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Hi Michelle,
In my experience it can begin from the onset of an illness.
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Permalink Reply by Michelle H on
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My son wasn't ill, he passed away suddenly. So it wasn't a gradual pulling away of my friend. I expressed hurt and disappointment that she didn't come to his funeral and she said she isn't willing to be in a friendship with those "demands." There were no demands...just me telling my friend of my disappointment.
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Michelle you really do not need friends like that with respect and in my mind are better off without them. I am so sorry for your loss and I will pray for you. God Bless.
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Permalink Reply by Bonnie Jacobs on
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No, but I feel for you. I have one very close friend who is there for me always and if I lost her friendship I don't know what I would do. I don't know what to say to you as I can't imagine what you are going through. Try to stay strong and I will be happy to help you or talk to you anytime.
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Bonnie, thank you for your kind reply. I'm glad you have the support of your best friend. How are you doing? Your daughter's passing is so recent.
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I'm trying to hang in there. My 29 yr. old daughter, Sara, passed away on this May 3rd. I am numb. This was a for and a half month battle that we knew where it was going. I never knew there could be such pain. Sara was a beautiful, loving, caring, and giving person. She put everyone else before herself. She was living with me and I miss her terribly. How do you go on? It seems like each day is harder than the day before. I am praying for you.
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Michelle, I know I already replied to you but after thinking about it, and I can't imagine how I forgot to tell you, I did lose a friend. This was a really good friend too. I could always talk to her about my daughter and she always made sense and made me feel better. Then she has a slight heart attack and the doctors asked her if she had been in any stress. She said that talking to me about Sara stressed her out and that she didn't want to talk to me anymore. Well, I did not cause her heart attack. I was shocked! When Sara passed I included her in my message to my friends that she had passed and I got absolutely no response. I think the whole thing is crazy. Luckily, I have no feelings of guilt. I still just can't believe it.
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Bonnie, I can't fathom that your friend would blame her heart attack on talking to you about Sara! I'm so sorry that happened to you. You sure didn't need someone trying to guilt you like that. Of course you didn't cause her heart attack!
I'm a therapist, but sometimes people's behavior still manages to blow my mind.
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You know, I could let her really get to me which would be my nature but I just don't care. I guess my perspective is different now. You say you are a therapist, why do I feel like stone and numb? Is it a normal part of grieving? I feel like I should be showing how much I hurt and I can't do it. Tears don't come anymore even though I feel like crying. Sara's memorial will be next weekend and I don't feel anything. What's wrong with me?
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Bonnie, it is a normal part of grief to feel as you do. We get some protection from the overwhelming enormity of what has happened to us. Otherwise, I think we would go crazy. My son passed away suddenly exactly 7 weeks ago today, yet I feel "flat." No tears here, either. Not that I haven't shed a lot of them, especially early on, but I know there is an ocean full of tears inside that aren't coming out. I guess we just have to be as gentle with ourselves as we need others to be with us. Praying for you and for all of us who have experienced the unthinkable.
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I feel so terribly sorry for your loss also. I can't imagine losing him so suddenly. You are in my prayers and my thoughts. Love and Light, Bonnie
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One of the hardest things was not being able to see him after he passed away. He was cremated before they brought him back to the States. So I never got to see the reality, which makes it harder to comprehend.
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