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Permalink Reply by Kevin Bailey on January 8, 2017 at 12:21am

I lost my beautiful wife in October too, she had cancer. It's bad enough that our loved ones had to go but to not be able to say goodbye is so difficult to deal with. Even though my wife had stage four cancer, I always believed that we was gonna beat it and live a happy life. I have a appointment this week to see a Counselor but I'm mainly going to get some pills to help me with my depression. It's not gonna get any better for us unfortunately because we lost a big part of who we were and we truly loved them with all our hearts and soul. All we can do is try our best to carry this heavy burden until we get called to join them.I also have kids and God knows if it wasn't for them I'd be gone, they're my inspiration for pushing on. There's no words, song or person that can ease our pain, it's a permanent part of us now but you're not alone, take it easy and God bless.

Permalink Reply by brenda mcintyre on January 8, 2017 at 5:36am

I am truly sorry for the loss of your wife. I am just shattered and I have been dealing with my husbands death by drinking and smoking. I have pushed back on going to a counselor as I feel there is nothing she could say. my kids are pushing me to get some help and adamant that I get control of the drinking and smoking. as well if not for my kids I would already be with my love. living is just agony for me and I am easily overwhelmed with basic tasks. I am going to a counselor too but I will always have this permanent pain as an aching in my chest. he was my soulmate made just for me and I will love and honor him all the days of my life which I hope are not that many. god bless you and your family too

Permalink Reply by Pamela philipp on January 13, 2017 at 7:36pm

Brenda first I am truly sorry for your loss my children are grown as well my daughter moved out of state just a few months before my husband passed he passed in September of 2015 Life has not been the same since there isn't a day that goes by that I don't miss him I am not living I am just existing here because of my children and grandchildren and I agree with Kevin when he says you are not alone take care

Permalink Reply by Maxey on January 15, 2017 at 2:57pm

Hi, Brenda,
I am so sorry that you are in such pain. I had the same relationship with my husband of 55 years,and I feel, as you so aptly say, LOST! It has been 15 agonizing months, and each day seems to get worse. This second year seems to make me realize that he is really gone, and that is something that is so unacceptable. I can hardly stand to wake up in the morning since it becomes so REAL! I wish I had some magic elixir that we could take just to ease the pain and longing. I miss my husband's touch, his love, and his company as you do.
I guess our only concellation is that we had such wonderful husbands. So many people go through life never knowing that kind of love and devotion. Please take whatever comfort you can from that fact. Peace to you, Maxey